Relationships have become more than what we used to know.
It’s beyond the boy meets girl, I want to date you, and ending things there.
It has become more of a scheming ground where you have to deduce what one party wants differently from what the other wants.
Even if you ask, you might be lied to, and that is why you need to look beyond the surface or just listen to what he has to say.
Reading the room and paying attention to signs will help you know what you’re in for.
9 Signs He Only Wants You For Your Body
1. He passes objectifying comments at you
This is so common among men who are only after a woman’s body.
They comment solely on the looks.
It doesn’t matter if the subject of your conversation has nothing to do with your looks.
This type of man would reduce you to body parts.
He mentions your great legs and nice curves more than anything else.
This is because those are his desires.
You know, what one wants the most is what one talks about the most.
He is talking more about your nice curves because all he wants is your waist.
And out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
2. He flatters you too much
A guy with intentions to use you only for your body will shower you with flattery to the extent that you would question whether you’re an AI-generated picture.
Even if you were Aphrodite’s first daughter, you’d find it hard to believe you are the person he is describing.
A friend of mine once showed me a message from a guy who was pursuing her, and I quote,
“God wanted to show off when he created you, especially on the 7th day when he was supposed to be resting.
You are a perfect 7 plus 1, a figure 8 body like a Coca-Cola pet bottle, I want to drink from you.”
Haha! Isn’t this over the top for someone not even in the talking stage yet?
When you think about it, you will realize what this guy truly desires.
A man who intends to use you for your body will often use flattery as a tactic.
When someone like this approaches you, don’t be fooled by his sweet words.
Be discerning and only respond to sincere admirers.
Don’t fall for the trap of false flattery.
3. He puts in no effort to know you
Ever thought about introducing your dog to book reading?
Wonder what their reaction would be?
Well, your guess is as good as mine.
A guy who is only interested in your body won’t bother with anything else about you, let alone make an effort to get to know you.
I mean, why would he invest his energy in understanding you?
The only thing he wants to understand is how to get you beneath the sheets.
His focus is fixated on what your clothes conceal.
Getting to know you seems like too much effort for him.
He will only go after his best and leave the rest.
4. He won’t want to introduce you to his people
This is yet another way to spot a man who is focused on your body rather than your whole self.
Introducing you to his friends and family?
Forget about it.
Why would he bother with that when his commitment is only to using your body and not nurturing a relationship?
He will go out of his way to avoid introducing you to his friends.
You will remain hidden from them, tucked away like a well-kept secret.
Even if, by some stroke of luck, you cross paths with them, he would not dare to define your relationship if he introduced you at all.
You will remain a mystery to them, and he will make sure of it.
Be wary of anyone who keeps you in the shadows.
It could be an indication that they’re only interested in one thing: your body, and nothing more.
5. His contact is inconsistent
When a guy is only interested in your body, he can go days without reaching out to you.
Then, he reappears, looking for physical intimacy.
He might resort to playing blame games, like telling you that you have forgotten him or guilt-tripping you, suggesting that you don’t care about him because you didn’t check up on him.
This is their way.
The truth is, he most likely has someone else he is committed to.
He prioritizes that person and forgets about you until he suddenly remembers he needs to reconnect with you, and then he resurfaces.
There’s no consistency or real connection, and it should be a red flag.
6. He doesn’t think of the future
His focus is here and now.
All he thinks about is how to get you into the bedroom tonight, and tomorrow’s worries can fend for themselves.
Try bringing up conversations about future plans with him, and you will notice he avoids them just like we steer clear of contact with a COVID-19 patient.
That’s because what he desires lies solely in the present, and he’s aware it might only be a fleeting moment. Why bother planning for an uncertain future?
He’s determined to seize the moment while he’s here, and he’s not too concerned about what happens once he’s gone.
Run.
7. He calls you late at night
Have you ever noticed that he tends to call you at a specific time?
Let’s say it’s late at night. If he only reaches out during those late hours and his calls are filled with suggestive or flirty tones, that’s a sign that his sole interest is in your body.
Late night is often seen as the perfect time for pillow talk.
He chooses that moment because it’s when one typically discusses matters of romance and intimacy.
It’s when he can weave poetic fantasies about your bed and how he can be a part of it, the only time he wants to make your dreams come true.
No pun intended.
If this is his intention, he’s not in it for the long haul.
He only wants to get what he can while he’s here, and he’s not too concerned about what happens once he’s gone.
8. He keeps asking you to “come over” to his place
Unless you guys have been together for a reasonable amount of time, if he continually insists that you come over to his place, you should recognize his true intentions.
He is after sex.
He will come up with all sorts of excuses, like claiming he’s an introvert, that he’s uncomfortable in public spaces, or even that he has a phobia of crowded places.
This guy will say just about anything to get you to his place.
But do not be fooled.
He is primarily interested in your body.
9. Everything you do is right
Try to concoct a story that makes it crystal clear you’re at fault.
He won’t point out your mistakes.
Instead, he’ll shift the blame onto someone else.
Another reason is that his reasoning is off in terms of what is right or wrong with you.
He doesn’t pay attention enough to know when you’re off track or on track.
He aims to keep you feeling good all the time.
He won’t complain about your shortcomings because, well, he doesn’t have long-term plans with you.
His ultimate goal is to get you into his bed.
So if he’s always telling you that everything you do is correct, then it’s likely he’s just interested in a one-time fling.
You’re probably familiar with the saying, “By their fruits, you shall know them.”