So this guy friend of mine looked at me one day and asked, “When are you getting married?” I just laughed because, honestly, marriage isn’t even on my radar right now. I’m still trying to get my life together first. But it got me thinking – growing up, most young guys I knew weren’t …
Look, I’m usually the first person to tell women, “Don’t stay where you’re not respected.” But when we’re talking about your marriage? Girl, it gets messy real fast. You can’t just bounce every time he says something thoughtless or forgets to do something you asked. But you also can’t ignore patterns that keep showing you …
Affairs are messy and painful, especially when you’re the one being cheated on. But there’s a difference between a woman who’s having a physical affair and a woman who’s emotionally involved in her affair partner. One is about sex, neglect, opportunity, or momentary weakness. The other is about her heart being somewhere else entirely. And …
They say Rome wasn’t built in a day. So also, no marriage falls apart in a day. It doesn’t just collapse overnight like a building after heavy rain. It’s hardly ever one dramatic event that destroys a marriage; it’s the gradual pile of little hurts, secrets, silences, and distance. That’s why so many people are …
Strange combination, right? Because how can someone love you but not like you? But it’s the truth. Love and like are not the same thing. Love can make a man stay. It can make him protect, provide, and even sacrifice. But liking you is different. That one is about enjoying you as a person. Wanting …
The first time I heard someone lie about their whereabouts, I was shocked. It was an early Monday morning, and this man was brushing his teeth when he received a call from the person he was supposed to meet. The next thing I heard from him was, “I am almost there. I am already within …
I have heard people say, “I may not agree with everything they do, but I respect them.” And it makes me genuinely ask: what does it mean to be respected? Could it be popularity? Does it mean being liked? Does it mean being feared? No, no, and no. You could be the most popular person …
Imagine a world where men say to their wives, “Babe, I’m not happy.” What a perfect world that would be! But such a world doesn’t exist. In fact, most husbands would rather eat burnt rice every night than admit they’re miserable. Because many men were raised to believe that showing unhappiness makes them weak. So …
Let’s not kid ourselves. Everyone has expectations about marriage. If not, why do we get married? It doesn’t even make any sense to enter a forever relationship with someone without having expectations. The problem now is not having expectations; it’s which expectations you’re carrying into the marriage. Because some expectations will help you grow, while …
My dad loved to tell us a story about how he never knew the value of my mum’s voice until she woke up one morning and decided not to talk. My mum is a vocal person and is always fun to be around, but that morning, she just wasn’t in the mood, so she kept …