Because of the nature of the word “Obsession,” we must clarify the type of obsession we’re discussing every time we use it.
Anyone who has experienced obsession in its raw form knows that it’s a crazy thing, a twisted and weird expression of love.
When a man is obsessed with a woman, his love becomes possessive, controlling, and overwhelming.
He constantly demands her attention, gets jealous over the smallest things, and tries to isolate her from friends and family.
This man may invade her privacy, monitor her every move, and become overly emotional or aggressive if she doesn’t respond the way he wants.
Instead of making her feel cherished, his obsession feels suffocating, making her feel trapped rather than loved.
Just to be clear, that’s not what we’re talking about here.
There’s another cute side to being obsessed with someone.
Let’s call it the positive kind.
For instance, the positive kind of obsession in a marriage is a deep, unwavering love and admiration that makes a man fully devoted to his wife in a healthy and fulfilling way.
He sees her as his greatest treasure and makes her happiness his priority.
When a man feels this way about his wife, you don’t have to ask: his actions will sell him out.
When A Man Is Obsessed With His Wife: He Does These 10 Things
1. Tell her everything
When I see people argue about whether people should be telling their spouses the secrets that other people tell them or not, I just laugh.
People who think individuals shouldn’t tell their spouses the secrets they’re told may not understand how love works.
That’s one way to identify a man obsessed with his wife; he’ll tell her everything.
His communication will be top-notch, but it won’t only be about their marriage or checking on her; it will also be about the deep stuff and the random stuff.
He’ll share his feelings and thoughts without holding back and never leave her to guess what is on his mind.
He’ll be so into her that he’ll even tell her things he ordinarily shouldn’t.
I remember one time when I took a road trip with my parents.
My mum had told my dad to take the car for a check before the journey to ensure that we were good.
My dad did, and we started our journey.
A few hours in, the car suddenly stopped.
We were wondering what the issue was when my dad told my mum that when he took the car for a check, the engineer had told him to change a particular thing in the engine, but he didn’t because he felt it was okay.
I don’t know, but if I were him, I wouldn’t share that information, knowing that it would portray me in a negative light and demonstrate my poor decision-making.
But because he tells her everything, he found it hard to keep the information from her even when he was shooting himself in the foot.
Of course, my mum got mad about it and continued to talk about it even after the car was fixed.
However, the point of this story was just to show how a man who is obsessed with his wife tells it all, no holding back.
2. Stares at her unprovoked
You’re going to catch him gazing at his wife a lot.
He’s been married to her for some time and has has even seen her at her worst and most vulnerable,, yet he still thinks she’s an angel.
She could be doing something random, like working on her computer, and he just lays in bed staring.
He’s taking in the details about her like it’s his first time seeing her.
He looks at her face, her body, the way she moves, laughs, and talks; he’s smitten.
It’s such an adorable thing to watch.
The man doesn’t see a flaw in her.
I mean, she may not be Monalisa, but in his eyes, she’s a work of art.
And this doesn’t apply only to when she’s all dressed and glammed up.
Sometimes, I wake up from a nap with my hair a mess, my eyeliner smeared, and I catch my husband staring at me and smiling.
And I’m wondering what on earth he finds appealing about my uncomely appearance.
However, I’ve learned that it goes beyond my physical appearance; it’s about how he generally feels about me as a person.
3. Let her know how much she means to him
One classic way to know that a man is not into you like that is when you have to beg for assurance.
Men who adore their wives tell them.
I know that not all men are expressive or great at communicating their feelings.
But if he’s not letting his wife know at all, then the feelings are not strong enough.
When a man is hopelessly in love with his wife, he tells that woman how precious she is to him, just so she’s never in doubt.
4. Won’t stop touching her
You know a man is enchanted by his wife when he can’t seem to get his hands off her – and I mean that in a good way, not hitting or abusing her.
Physical touch is a beautiful expression of affection and love, and you can’t rule it out of a healthy relationship.
Such a man will naturally seek ways to be close to her, whether by holding hands, hugging, cuddling, or simply being near her.
He’s happier when he’s closer to her, and it’s so cute.
5. Takes care of her
He can’t watch her suffer because it’s almost like he lives and breathes for her.
You’ll see him working his ass off to ensure that she’s happy, protected and provided for.
This is not the kind of man you find in the company of men arguing about going 50/50 on bills with their wives.
This man just wants to take care of his woman to the best of his ability.
He nurtures and cares for her materially, emotionally, and physically.
You’ll see him going on his knees to knot her shoelace, opening doors for her, and even holding her bag sometimes.
He’s the definition of a finished man.
6. Speaks highly of her and shows her off
If you stay around a man who is crazy about his wife long enough, you’re gonna know.
Why?
Because he will bring her up in conversations.
Men like that can’t stop talking about their woman.
Whether they’re with friends, colleagues, or family, something about the conversation will magically route him to mentioning her.
And it’s always in a positive light, expressing his admiration and appreciation for her.
It’s like he wants to show her off.
If you’re the wife of such a man, you may even feel shy sometimes because your husband keeps telling everyone how amazing you are.
Just like my uncle, who never fails to tell everyone he meets about his wife’s accomplishments and how great she is at what she does.
His wife even feels embarrassed sometimes at all the attention he brings her; sometimes, I can even see her try to stop him from blowing her trumpet.
If she’s present physically, he proudly introduces her as his wife, or if he’s into social media, he makes posts about her.
He just enjoys letting people know how lucky he feels to have her
Don’t try speaking negatively about her or doing her any sort of harm because you’ll have him to contend with.
This man stands up for his wife, defends her honor, and ensures that she’s feeling emotionally and physically safe all the time.
And he doesn’t just do this when people are around; even in the privacy of their home, he shows her respect and appreciation, listening to her even when they disagree.
7. Puts her first
A man who is obsessed with his wife places no one above her.
For this man, she’s the center of his world.
When he’s making plans, he considers her, and he doesn’t just consider her; he puts her first.
This is not the type of man who will entertain baseless arguments like “Who comes first? My mum or my wife?” or “Should I give up quality time with my wife for an evening with the boys?”
It’s clear where his loyalty lies – with his wife, and he is unapologetic about it.
He never gets tired of her presence and would rather be with her than anywhere else.
Unless, of course, he’s choosing the money to take care of her, and if that were the case, he’d reach out to explain to her.
8. Acts jealous
There’s a part of jealousy that is controlling, unreasonable, and simply toxic.
That’s not the one we’re talking about here.
We’re talking about something different.
The husband feels unhappy or slightly uncomfortable when his wife gets too close to another man.
He’s protective and doesn’t like the idea of anyone else taking his place in her life.
It’s jealousy, but in a healthy way.
9. Pays attention to her
An obsessed husband is an attentive husband.
This man adores his wife, so of course, everything about her is a big deal to him.
There are times I randomly mention something I like or want when I’m talking to my husband, and I totally forget afterward.
Only to get a surprise gift box days or a few weeks after containing the very thing I mentioned.
Little details like this make me so emotional and grateful and make me realize how much of a treasure that man is.
And you know what else it does?
It makes me up my game in loving him too.
Men like this do their best to remember anniversaries, birthdays, and even small moments that matter to their wives, making sure they feel cherished, even if dates are not their strongest points.
They notice small details about her, such as how she feels, what she likes, and her moods, and they adapt to meet her needs and support her where they can.
10. Makes her happy
Because he pays attention to his wife, he’s able to make her happy.
Sometimes, I see husbands do “nice” things for their wives, but it doesn’t mean much to the woman because what the man did wasn’t something she liked or desired.
But this husband is different; He pays attention to what his wife loves and goes out of his way to do those things for her.
You’ll find him surprising, supporting, and bringing her joy.
He just wants to please her in every way possible; whether emotionally, physically, or mentally, he’s always thinking about how to satisfy her and meet her needs.
And, of course, with a man like this, petty arguments and conflicts won’t fly.
He is a willing partner, so he actively works to resolve misunderstandings quickly because he hates the idea of being distant from her.
The things an obsessed husband does for his wife are so heartwarming that they inspire kindness in her, too.
A woman who already loves her husband now becomes even more loving and connected to him because she sees how into her he is, and that’s precious.
In a world where everyone is selfish and self-seeking, having someone who is all about you is a blessing that should be appreciated and reciprocated, even when that person is your partner.