There is no perfect marriage, right?
Even though I’ve been in this marriage business for over six years and have a happy marriage, it’s not all rainbows and sunshine.
There are times I can’t thank God enough for my husband, and there are times I’m like, ”Who did I marry?”
So, like every other married couple, my husband and I have our issues.
But what if you suspect signs your husband is disgusted by you?
That’s a serious one because disgust should never be what one feels toward one’s partner.
Let’s consider some signs your husband may be feeling disgusted by you:
10 Signs Your Husband is Disgusted By You
#1 He isn’t interested in touching you anymore
Perhaps this is the major sign of all that he’s disgusted by you.
If your husband used to love cuddling, holding hands, and getting it on with you anywhere and everywhere, but all of a sudden, he doesn’t want to do any of that anymore, it could be a sign he’s disgusted by you.
You may even be surprised at how distant he has become sexually when before, he acted like he couldn’t have enough of you.
If he’s feeling disgusted by you, something has shifted in your emotional connection, leading to avoidance of physical intimacy, and it’s not good.
#2 He turns away from you when you attempt to initiate physical intimacy/affection
So, not only does he not touch you anymore, but when you attempt to touch him, he pulls away or turns his head.
This is an incredibly hurtful experience, and it’s a definite sign of an emotional disconnect between the two of you.
You may even notice that when you try to get close to him, he scrunches up his face like he smells something bad.
And you are left wondering if something is wrong with you, the way you look or smell.
#3 He constantly insults you
Another major sign of disgust is constant insulting or belittling comments.
Verbal abuse is never acceptable, and if your husband has started using derogatory language toward you, it may be because that’s how he feels about you or toward you.
The insults may be directed at your appearance, intelligence, or personal character traits.
These comments sting and can cause long-term damage to your self-esteem.
#4 He begins to criticize you openly and frequently
Yes, you are not perfect, but that’s not enough reason for the man who vowed to love and cherish you to criticize you always and anywhere.
It’s worse that he might even be doing this in the presence of your children and anyone else.
It shows he doesn’t respect you or your feelings, and he is looking for reasons to justify his feeling of disgust.
You are even starting to feel like you can’t do anything right, and it makes you walk on eggshells around him.
#5 He doesn’t spend time with you anymore
Spending quality time together as a couple is non-negotiable.
If the man you love is no longer interested in spending time with you and always finds an excuse, it means he’s not into you anymore.
He’d rather be out late with his friends, away on business trips, spend time on his phone, or stay longer at work to avoid spending time with you.
If he’s a good father, he may spend more time with the kids, but with you, zilch!
#6 Lack of patience and constant irritation
If you observe that your husband seems to have no patience around you or is constantly irritated with you, it could be a sign that he is disgusted.
He’s no longer interested in your opinions, complains about anything you do, and gets angry at the slightest things.
It might seem like he acts out because of stress or a bad day, but if it happens all the time, it’s a major red flag.
Maybe you are afraid of talking to him because you know he will lash out at you.
So, you have learned to swallow your words and repress your feelings.
#7 He doesn’t look at you in the same way he used to
This is another major sign that your husband has completely lost interest in you.
He seldom looks at you, his gaze is distant, and he seems to be either preoccupied or uninterested when looking at you.
No more stolen glances or butterflies in the stomach – just a blank disgusting stare whenever he looks at you.
Just as you can tell that someone has feelings for you from how they look at you, you can tell when someone has lost interest just by their gaze.
If he once looked at you with love and now looks at you with disgust, that’s probably how he feels.
#8 When you’re making love, he seems to be doing it out of a sense of obligation rather than desire.
Even when you two are intimate, it feels like he is just going through the motions and performing his husbandly duty.
Couples who don’t have a deep connection anymore often struggle to enjoy making love as they used to – there’s no passion or chemistry in the moments, just a sense of obligation.
You might feel like you’re having to force the passion and communication when things used to come so naturally.
It seems now that he’d rather be elsewhere than making love to you.
#9 He doesn’t even want to go out in public with you anymore
Before, you two were always seen together, laughing and having a good time.
But now, when you want to go out and do something fun, he makes up excuses to stay at home or goes off on his own.
It’s like he doesn’t want to be seen with you anymore.
The fact that he won’t go out in public with you is a sign that he can’t stand being seen with you.
If he can’t stand you in private, he certainly won’t do it in public either.
#10 He gets angry when you talk about your feelings
When you try to discuss your feelings with him, he gets angry and shuts down.
He doesn’t want to hear about the pain you are feeling or the confusion that you have about his sudden lack of interest in you.
It’s like he can’t handle anything related to emotions anymore and will do anything to avoid them.
What To Do When You Notice Signs Your Husband is Disgusted By You
I know it’s not fair that your husband is disgusted by you, but could there be something in your behavior or habits that may have led to these negative emotions?
It’s important to take a step back and reflect on what you may have done wrong so that you can make amends.
2. Talk it out
No matter how much he tries to shut down the conversation, you have to talk to him about his feelings.
This will let him know that you care enough about the relationship to want to fix it.
Ask him questions about what has made him feel this way and listen without judgment.
3. Seek professional help
If you can’t get through to him still, it might be time to seek professional help.
A counselor or therapist can help you both identify the root of your husband’s disgust and provide guidance on how to move forward with constructive communication.
It’s important that both partners are willing to work together in order to make progress.
#4 Don’t let it affect your self-esteem
It’s hard not to take it to take your husband’s attitude and behavior personally, but try not to let it affect your self-esteem.
Remind yourself that this is about the relationship and not about you.
#5 Focus on self-care and stay positive
No matter how difficult the situation gets, focus on caring for yourself.
Find healthy ways to manage stress and emotions, such as exercising, talking to a friend or counselor, meditating, or journaling.
Staying positive can be hard, but this, too, shall pass.
Prayer is a great source of strength during tough times.
Prayer helps us to keep our faith alive and serves as a reminder that we are not alone in our struggles.
Let God guide you and help you find the best ways to communicate with your husband and heal your marriage.