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So it seems like you’ve been struggling with attracting a certain type of guy, and you’re getting pretty frustrated.
What kind of guys?
The low-class guys!
And you’re wondering, “Good Lord! But why do I attract low-class guys? What’s wrong with me?”
We’ll get to that.
But before that, who are low-class guys?
I’m not talking about economic status or social class here, but rather the quality of their behavior and character.
Low-class guys are typically those who don’t treat you with respect, have poor communication skills, lack ambition, and might engage in questionable activities.
They can be manipulative, selfish, or even emotionally abusive.
I believe you deserve nothing short of the best, so let’s look into why you might be attracting these types of men and how you can change that.
4 Reasons You Attract Low-Class Guys
1. You lack personal values and boundaries
How does not having personal values and boundaries bring low-quality guys into your life?
Let me explain with an example, so you will get it.
If you have a clear set of values and boundaries when it comes to relationships, maybe you believe in open communication, honesty, mutual respect, and support.
You also have some non-negotiable boundaries, like no cheating, no manipulation, and no controlling behavior.
You know you want a partner who shares these values and respects your boundaries.
So let’s say you meet a guy who seems charming and fun, but after a few dates, you notice some red flags, like him making belittling comments about your appearance and interests and trying to control who you spend time with.
You quickly realize that his behavior doesn’t align with your values and he doesn’t respect your boundaries.
Now, because you have a strong understanding of what you want and deserve in a relationship, you decide to end things with him before you get more serious.
That’s the power of having clear personal values and boundaries.
If you lack these, you’ll keep attracting low-class men.
So, reflect on what’s important to you in a partner and what behaviors are unacceptable.
This will not only help you avoid low-class guys, but it will also help you build stronger, healthier relationships in the future.
2. You have low self-esteem
Confidence and self-esteem are crucial when it comes to the type of people we attract in our lives, especially in romantic relationships.
When you have low self-esteem or struggle with confidence, you might unknowingly give off signals that make you more vulnerable to low-class guys.
These guys may be attracted to you because they feel that they can take advantage of your insecurities or lack of self-worth.
But when you have strong self-confidence and a healthy sense of self-worth, you’re more likely to attract partners who treat you with respect and genuinely value you as a person.
This is because you would have set your personal values and boundaries, and you won’t settle for less.
It takes a healthy sense of self to have personal values and boundaries.
3. Check your social circle
Sometimes, we attract the wrong people because we’re hanging out in the wrong places or with the wrong crowd.
You know, like when we’re spending time in environments where low-class guys are more likely to be found or hanging out with friends who don’t share our values.
Because the truth is, you can’t be better than your social circle.
Ask yourself where you keep meeting these low-quality guys.
If you notice a pattern in where you meet them, you might wanna check that.
I’m not saying you should ditch all your friends or stop going to places that spark joy for you, but you need to be more mindful of where you spend your time and who you surround yourself with.
To make it clearer for you, I’ll give you some examples of places where you might be more likely to meet low-class guys.
I’m not trying to discriminate; you can definitely find good people in these places too.
But it’s good to be aware of the types of environments that might have a higher concentration of individuals who don’t align with your values.
Shady bars or clubs: Some bars or clubs have a reputation for attracting people who are just looking for a quick hookup or who engage in questionable behavior.
These places are not the best for finding someone who is interested in a serious relationship.
Gambling venues: Casinos or other gambling venues are usually full of individuals with addiction issues, financial problems or who prioritize gambling over other aspects of their lives.
While it’s possible to meet responsible gamblers, it’s good to be cautious in these environments.
Adult entertainment venues: Strip clubs, adult video stores, or similar establishments often cater to people who are more interested in casual, superficial encounters.
While there’s nothing exactly wrong with these places, they might not be the best spots to find a partner interested in a meaningful, long-term relationship.
Online hookup apps: Some dating apps or websites are specifically designed for casual hookups rather than meaningful connections. If you’re using these platforms, you might find yourself encountering a higher number of low-class guys.
You can’t change anything about your dating experience if you keep meeting guys in the same place you’ve been meeting them.
4. You’re low-class yourself
Before you take this point personally, please take a moment to read and understand this point.
Being “low-class” doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, but rather that you might have some bad habits, behaviors, or attitudes that aren’t the healthiest or most positive.
If you want to stop attracting low-class guys, you need to take an honest look at yourself and consider whether you might be projecting a “low-class” vibe that could be attracting similar people into your life.
After all, like begets like.
Greatness begets greatness.
Birds of a feather flock together.
Enough with the clichés, but you get my point.
We tend to attract people like us.
Also, it’s only fair to have what you want in a partner.
For example, if you want a financially stable partner, you’re likely to achieve that if you’re financially stable yourself.
If you want a good-looking partner, you’re likely to have that if you take care of your looks as well.
If you want an educated partner, you’re likely to have that if you’re educated yourself.
You see?
So to break the cycle of attracting low-quality guys, start by reflecting on your actions and attitudes.
Are you treating yourself and others with respect?
Are you taking care of your physical and emotional well-being?
In short, do you have your sh*t together?
Identifying areas for growth and improvement will help you raise your own standards and embody the qualities you seek in a partner.
As you work on yourself and become a higher-quality person, you’ll naturally begin to attract higher-quality partners who share your values and treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
Embrace the journey of self-improvement and watch how your relationships transform as you become the best version of yourself.
And when you do that, don’t settle for less!
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