Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me? 6 Typical Reasons 

In this piece, I’ll be answering the question, “why are guys never serious about me?”

If it’s a question that you’ve been asking yourself, your friends, or even the men you want to be with, you should jump on this article to get some answers.

Although every man has their reasons for not taking a potential romantic partner seriously, some reasons are common among men.

We’ll be looking at some of the most common ones.

Let’s get to it!

Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me?: 6 Typical Reasons 

1. You’ve been meeting with the wrong type of guys

Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me

As the saying goes, “you attract what you are,” and the same goes for relationships.

If the type of guys that come around you usually don’t want to be in a committed relationship, it might be that they see that you’re not ready to be in one too and are following your footsteps.

Make a mental assessment of the men who come around you and confirm that you want the same things.

A good instance is if you keep meeting guys at a nightclub, there’s a high chance that those guys are just looking to have a swell time, not a relationship.

On the other hand, if you meet a guy from a book reading club, pet owner’s club, or a club for gamers, there’s a good chance that he’ll be more interested in getting to know you better than just trying to have a good time.

So, if you feel that you’ve been meeting with the wrong type of guy, I think you should change the places you hang out to change that.

2. You act more like a friend

Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me

I think you need to act like more than a friend to a guy if you want him to see you as more than a friend.

What this means is that you should make sure that the topics you bring up during conversations, your body language, and your general behavior show that you’re a girl he should see as “relationship material” and not just as someone he can take as an ordinary friend.

I can imagine how difficult this will be for you, especially if you’re not used to flirting, but you need to step out of your comfort zone and try something different to get him to see you in a different light.

Stop letting guys friendzone you!

3. You come off as desperate

Many guys do not want to go near a desperate woman, even with a long pole between them.

Acts of desperation are a big turn-off and scare men away.

Every human can detect desperation from a mile away, and men can give anything not to have anything to do with it.

What you can do about it is to slow down on the way you’re approaching him.

This includes taking things slowly with the way you’re expressing your feelings and how you’re moving forward with the relationship.

He’s going to see you as a desperate woman if you’re always blowing up his phone with calls and text messages.

The same can also be said if you’re always the one making plans for the relationship and inviting him to hang out with you.

Why not give him a chance to let you know that he’s interested in you and go through the process of wooing you?

If not, you’ll end up making him uncomfortable and pushing him away.

4. You get intimate too quickly

Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me

It’s quite understandable that you’re trying to secure your spot in the life of a guy you’re interested in.

It’ll probably feel right to get under the sheets with them as quickly as they want.

But have you ever stopped to ask yourself the type of message you’re sending to these guys if you’re too quick to jump into bed with them?

You might be sending the wrong message.

Often, men take it as a sign that you were just interested in their physical prospects.

While I’m not saying that you should drag a guy along for so long, all I’m saying is that you should find a suitable balance between physical prospects and creating a deep connection with a man.

5. Your intentions are not clear

Why Are Guys Never Serious About Me

Perhaps, you’ve never made it clear to the guys you’re meeting that what you’re looking for is a relationship and not mere friendship.

If a relationship is what you want, make it clear and make sure that he understands it and is on the same page with you on it.

It’ll do you no good to beat about the bush or try to play games.

The sooner you come out plainly with what you want, the sooner you’ll discover if he wants the same thing as you.

There’s no big deal if he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

You can easily move on from him and find someone else who is interested in being in a relationship with you.

The good thing is that you spoke up and found out early that he’s not on the same page with you with regards to wanting a relationship, thereby saving you the time you would have wasted with him.

6. You’ve not met the right partner yet

If you have been doing everything right and you are still meeting guys who are not serious with you, it simply means that you haven’t met the right partner yet.

You should continue looking for someone compatible with you, who has the same goals and values as you, and who is looking for a serious relationship.

So, there’s nothing wrong with you.

You just haven’t met the right partner yet.

And I understand how tough this could knowing how competitive the dating market is.


What Can You Do If You Want A Relationship And He Doesn’t?

If you ever find yourself wanting a relationship, but the guy you’re interested in doesn’t want a relationship, it’s not a good place to be in.

Although it might be tough, something has to give.

To start with, you need to sit down with him and talk about why he doesn’t want a relationship.

He might give certain reasons that may range from not thinking that you both are compatible to saying that he’s not just ready for a relationship.

It’s also possible he’s unaware that you want to get into a committed relationship with him.

You need to know what’s going on in his mind before looking for ways to make amends, and that’s if there’s anything you can do about his reasons for not wanting a relationship.


A man can change his mind from not wanting a relationship to wanting to be in one with you.

I mean, anyone can change their stance on whatever decision they made before.

So, I’ll advise you not to write off what you share with him or give up hope if you have strong feelings for him just because he said he’s not interested in being in a relationship.

You need to work on the relationship if you feel that waiting for him for a short time is worth it and you truly love him.

While drumming it into his ears that you’ll not wait around forever for him to change his mind, though, you need to be understanding and patient with him.

I wish you all the best in your quest for a partner and hope you find someone who truly loves you and makes you happy.


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