10 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Wasting Your Time

As a lady, are you asking the following questions about your relationship;

Do we want the same thing?

Is this really going to go anywhere?

Is he wasting my time?

Wait a minute.

How do you even know if your relationship with a guy has potential or if it’s a road to a dead-end?

Well, we’ve simplified it for you in this article.

Here, we’ll discuss the signs your boyfriend is wasting your time.

Enjoy the read!

8 Clear Signs Your Boyfriend Is Wasting Your Time

1. His energy with you is inconsistent

One of the first signs your boyfriend is wasting your time is that his energy with you is inconsistent.

He blows hot and cold with you.

On some days, he appears very interested and into you.

He’s initiating dates, being responsive, and putting effort into the relationship just how you want it to be.

On other days, it’s as if a switch is turned off in his head because he changes drastically and acts like you don’t exist.

Somedays, you’ll notice that although he’s almost always online, your messages are mostly unread.

When he replies, there’s a tone of formality, and his responses are short and straight to the point.

In all these, you’re as confused as never before.

The rollercoaster of ups and downs is too much for anyone to keep up or handle.

You have no idea what to expect from one waking day or the next, and it’s not healthy.

It’s not how a healthy relationship should be.

I think that a healthy relationship should be predictable to an extent.

That’s why we make long and short-term plans both as couples and as individuals.

No one wants life to catch them by surprise.

So, your relationship is not healthy if you don’t know what to expect from it and your partner at any point.

Most times, things are not right if they don’t feel right.

If your relationship lacks consistency, it’s merely because you’re an option to him.

He’s just wasting your time.

2. He never puts effort into the relationship

It’s not a good sign if your boyfriend is never flexible with you.

He’ll not make plans, but when you do, he’ll cancel on you at the last minute or, worse still, stand you up.

You’ll notice that he’s always dragging his feet whenever you want him to get involved in making plans for things that concern your relationship.

It simply means that you’re not a priority to him, which is not a good ingredient for the foundation of a special and long-lasting relationship.

Dating has no business being one-sided.

Ideally, it should be mutual; both partners should put in similar or the same amount of effort.

You shouldn’t be doing all the work in your relationship.

It’s all shades of wrong, and you’re setting yourself up for big-time heartbreak.

Surely, the breakup will come eventually, but by then, you must have invested a lot more than you can bear in a relationship that’s visibly a waste of your time.

If you’re putting in a lot of effort and not getting even the barest minimum in return, it’s one of the signs your boyfriend is wasting your time.

3. You don’t know your stand in the relationship

If you don’t know your stand in your relationship, it’s a huge red flag.

Love isn’t hard, and no one should make it hard for you.

Surely, challenges will come in the relationship, but first, you should know your stand in the relationship.

The right person will work with you to make your life easier and better.

If you’re in a relationship, you should know exactly how your boyfriend feels about you and where you stand in his life.

It doesn’t have to be complicated.

You should think twice if his actions do not match his words, and you’re at a loss for your position in his life.

4. He tells you directly that he’s not ready for a serious relationship

If your boyfriend has ever told you directly that he is not ready for a relationship or that he doesn’t want anything serious, it’s in your best interest to know that your boyfriend is wasting your time.

Please pay attention to what he’s saying.

Don’t hope that he might realize what he has with you and probably change his mind.

One thing you should also never do is try to convince anyone to stay with you by throwing your value or worth at them.

It screams desperation.

If a guy tells you that he doesn’t want more, he really doesn’t want more till he changes his mind.

He won’t gain anything by telling you something true.

So, best believe him when he says that he’s not ready for any serious relationship.

It would be best if you let him go.

You’ll find a guy who is ready to be committed to you.

5. He’s too open with you

Too much of everything is bad.

Although it’s good for partners in a relationship to be open to each other, being too open is not a good sign.

I know you’re wondering what being too open can mean.

It infers to being in an open relationship.

For instance, he talks about his current dealings with other girls, checks out other girls when he’s with you and tells you of his interest in them, or even talks about his ex like he’s not over her entirely.

Let’s just say that he’s too loud.

There’s a difference between being open and being loud.

It’s a sign that he probably doesn’t take his relationship with you seriously.

It can also be that he’s not ready to be in a serious relationship and is still content with hopping from one woman to the other.

Another angle is that he sees you as just a friend while you think that you’re in a relationship with him.

Sis, it might appear that you’re dating yourself if this is the case.

All the cases listed above point to one thing – your boyfriend is wasting your time.

6. Your relationship is stagnant

One of the signs your boyfriend is wasting your time is that your relationship is stagnant or hasn’t made any significant progress in a long time.

You’ll notice that you’re stuck in one place in the relationship.

You and your boyfriend are not growing closer to each other or bonding more.

You’re no longer learning new things about each other and are not serious about taking steps toward being committed and moving your relationship forward.

Whenever you bring up the topic of your relationship not making any progress for months or even years, you’ll notice that he insists on seeing nothing wrong with the pace of the relationship, gives unclear replies, tries to change the topic, or flares up.

Suppose your relationship is not meeting your expectations, and you can’t have a civil conversation about it with your partner to effect changes that will be in the best interest of you and your boyfriend. In that case, you might be just wasting your time in the relationship.

Another angle is that he proposed to you a long time ago and, since then, has made no further moves to solidify the engagement.

You’ve worn his engagement ring for so long and everyone is tired of waiting for the wedding date.

Worse still, you’ve become a ‘lord of the rings’ because of how long you’ve worn his engagement ring.

Yet, he’s not willing to make you his wife.

I’ll tell you that he’s only wasting your time.

You should move on with your life while you still can.

7. Your instincts say so

Your instincts are almost always right.

If it tells you that your boyfriend is wasting your time, trust what it’s saying and go with it.

Whenever something doesn’t feel right, there’s a high chance that it isn’t right.

You can’t shake off the feeling that things are not how they should be.

If you keep holding on and try to patch things up whenever the hunch comes, the relationship will break down at some point, and the pain you’ll feel then will be greater than what you’ll feel if you choose your peace and sanity now and walk away.

8. You feel that you’re not enough for him

It’s expected to be excited and anxious at the beginning of a relationship.

But once you and your partner have known each other to some extent, you don’t need to put in effort to make him find you attractive, exciting, and fun to be with.

If you find yourself constantly putting in your best to win him over in the relationship, it’s a red flag.

Do not get comfortable in the situation you find yourself in.

Leaving him will give way to someone who thinks you’re enough to come into your life.

But if you don’t, you too, and not only him, will be wasting your time.