No marriage comes with an instruction manual.
In fact, every marriage comes as a fully boxed package.
The two individuals involved get to live with the contents of the package as they unbox through the years.
Every marriage has its ups and downs, but its success depends on how quickly and effectively the couple resolves their issues and moves on to more productive things.
However, a big problem might arise if one or both parties cannot overcome their differences and forge a lasting bond in the marriage.
In this case, one party, specifically the husband, is refusing to move ahead because he feels the marriage was a mistake.
He might or might not voice it, but his nonchalant attitude toward living in peace and harmony with his wife is enough proof.
In this article, we’ll be discussing the signs your husband thinks your marriage was a mistake.
The things we’ll break down here will help you discover why your husband is acting the way he is towards you.
It’ll also keep you informed and guide you on your next line of action in the marriage.
8 Signs Your Husband Thinks Your Marriage Was A Mistake
1. He tells you
Sometimes, the greatest sign your husband thinks your marriage was a mistake is that he tells you without mincing words.
There are people who are very direct and do not know how to beat about the bush.
Your husband might be one of such people.
He must have weighed some things about your marriage and is convinced that your marriage was a mistake.
He’s not telling you to make you feel bad.
He’s just telling you this so that you can prepare your mind for the next phase, which is likely separation and, subsequently, divorce.
2. He stops being intimate with you
When a man thinks his marriage was a mistake, he may stop being intimate with his wife.
Every successful marriage thrives on healthy expressions of intimacy, and I’m not talking about just sex.
Some couples don’t have sex regularly, but that doesn’t mean that there’s any problem in their marriage.
Apart from sex, they engage in other forms of intimacy, such as physical body contact, words of affirmation, reassurances, and spending time together.
That way, it’s clear to all and sundry that they love and enjoy being with each other.
Sexual intimacy is also a type of bonding between couples.
Although it’s not the most important ingredient in a marriage, it is still an important one.
However, a man who thinks that his marriage was a mistake will stop being attracted to his wife and will not be interested in having physical touches, spending time together, reassuring her of his love, and having actual sex with her.
Even if he wants to indulge in sex with her, it’ll be for his own sexual gratification.
There won’t be any sexual enjoyment, satisfaction, or fulfillment for his wife.
He’ll be in a hurry to get it over and done with so that he’ll leave her.
Pathetic!
3. He cheats on you
That brings me to the next point.
If a man thinks his marriage was a mistake, he’ll likely cheat on his wife.
It’s clear that he’s no longer happy in his marriage or in love with his wife.
So, he’ll seek love and happiness outside his marriage.
He’ll start having affairs or stick to just one affair mistress who makes him happy.
He might fall in love with another woman along the way while still being married to his wife.
To him, the marriage was a mistake and is long over.
He’s only waiting for the right time to leave.
4. He doesn’t communicate with you
A man who thinks that your marriage was a mistake will not have anything to say to you.
You both literally live like roommates and talk to each other only when it’s necessary.
He avoids bringing up conversations with you and either shuts you down or excuses himself when you want to start one.
He can try to engage when you bring up general topics but will shy away from having talks about personal or intimate details with you.
Discussing personal things is a way of creating and maintaining a bond between people.
He’s aware of this and doesn’t see any need to maintain or forge a bond with you.
He already feels that the marriage was a mistake and is looking for a way out.
So, creating or maintaining the bond between both of you instead of destroying it or letting it die a natural death will be him shooting himself in the foot.
5. He keeps secrets from you
When a man thinks his marriage was a mistake, he’ll keep secrets from his wife.
He’ll stop seeing her as an integral part of himself and his life.
As such, he’ll treat her as a stranger and consequently stop telling her things about himself.
He’ll keep secrets from her if he knows that such information will have a negative impact on her.
Let’s say that he went on a date with another woman.
He’ll never let his wife hear of it.
Also, he’ll stop confiding in her.
If she tries to ask questions about anything she suspects or hears outside about her husband, he may feel that she’s prying into his privacy.
Whenever he doesn’t want her to know anything about himself, he might resort to lying to her, especially if she’s a curious person who won’t stop asking questions until she gets answers.
6. He criticizes you constantly
When I was a little girl, there was a man who constantly disturbed the neighborhood with his issues with his wife.
We knew whenever he was in his house because his loud voice always announced him.
He was constantly berating his wife and telling her how useless she was to him.
He seizes every opportunity to talk down on her, downplay her efforts, criticize her negatively, and make her feel less of herself.
He used to tell her that all she had ever brought him in the marriage was bad luck and that she should pack her things and leave his house.
He always told whoever cared to listen that his marriage to her was a mistake that shouldn’t have happened.
I always pitied his wife because she appeared to be quiet and reserved.
Her husband was always the one ‘bringing her legs outside.’
Although I was very young then, I knew that nothing was right about the way a man treated his wife and vowed never to be in such a situation.
7. He’s generally unhappy around you
One of the signs a husband thinks his marriage was a mistake is that he’s generally unhappy whenever he’s around his wife.
Such a man walks around the house wearing a long face.
When greeted or asked a question that requires a yes or no for an answer, he’ll grunt in reply.
When his wife happens to be in the same space as him, for instance, they share a bed. He’ll sigh unendingly as if he’s going through torture by merely being in the same space with her.
If she wants to bring up a conversation with him, he’ll shut her down or even snap at her, claiming that she’s disturbing his peace.
However, he’s a sweetheart to people outside and feels more like himself whenever he’s away from his wife.
He laughs without a care in the world, strikes up and sustains conversations with strangers, and offers them help even when he’s not asked.
Does your husband fit this picture?
He likely thinks your marriage was a mistake.
8. He abuses you
In addition to all the other signs listed above, you’ll be going through abuse at the hands of a man who thinks his marriage to you was a mistake.
He can mete out abuse on you physically by raising his hands on you or financially by withdrawing or withholding finances from you, especially if you are fully dependent on him.
Even if you are not completely dependent on him and he has access to your credit cards, he might take all your money in a bid to frustrate you and keep you in lack and want.
He can abuse you emotionally by depriving you of love, care, attention, and affection.
Of course, it’s expected of him, as he already thinks that your marriage was a mistake.
He might also resort to using abusive words on you and calling you unprintable names.
He can’t stand you and is bent on making your life miserable.
So, he’ll target your self-esteem with the aim of crashing it to zero.
These instances are just some ways you’ll suffer abuse at the hands of a husband who thinks your marriage was a mistake.