I used to know a couple in my neighborhood who constantly seemed never to agree on anything.
Most times, they were on the opposite sides of the divide and always fought and argued like it was their second skin.
One time, the woman stormed out of their house with her husband’s phone in her hand.
She threatened to smash it if he didn’t tell her who he was texting.
It took the intervention of some passersby to get her to calm down and not take any drastic action.
Much later, when I ran into her at the estate supermarket, I asked her about that incident.
She said she created the scene because she knew her husband was texting someone he shouldn’t be texting.
Well, while I do not subscribe to her methods, I understand that it can be frustrating to discover that your partner is texting someone he has no business texting.
You might be experiencing something similar and want to be sure that everything is not happening in your head but really playing out in real life.
This is where I come in, and I’ll share the signs that indicate that your man is texting someone he shouldn’t.
What’s that thing they say, knowledge is power, innit?
Read on to gain the power of knowledge to make rational decisions in your relationship.
7 Signs He’s Texting Someone He Shouldn’t Be
1. He stays glued to his phone
If a man suddenly starts being glued to his phone, it’s one of the signs he’s texting someone he shouldn’t be.
You’ll notice that such a man just developed the habit of always going around and everywhere with his phone.
He has become inseparable from his phone, and when he’s less busy, he’s always typing away on his phone.
If he’s not sending or replying to messages, he’s constantly checking to see if he has new messages.
He also becomes overprotective of the phone.
The reason is that he doesn’t want to slip up and lose sight of the phone so that his partner won’t get an idea of who he’s texting or exchanging texts with.
He doesn’t want her to have a peek into their texts too because he knows that he’s doing something wrong.
Overall, he’s hiding and being overly protective of his phone because he’s hiding something on the phone.
2. He can’t explain or account for his whereabouts sometimes
A man who can’t explain where he has been for some hours and it keeps happening definitely has something to hide.
He might just get up, take his car keys and leave the house for hours.
When he comes back, he’ll refuse to talk about where he has been.
Please note that his spouse is not trying to turn into a monitoring spirit who always wants to know where he has been and who he has been with.
There’s something called accountability, and it should be taken seriously in every relationship and marriage that must be considered healthy and successful.
Be ready to always tell your partner where you are going to, who you’ll be meeting, and other such details.
If both of you are accountable to each other, it’ll help build trust and strengthen the bond that already exists between you.
So, if a man can’t explain or account for his whereabouts sometimes, it might be that he’s texting someone he shouldn’t be (most likely another woman), and he went to meet up with her.
For instance, he closes from work by 5pm daily but sometimes he gets home by 10pm and doesn’t offer any explanation for where he has been for five hours.
When you’re sure there’s no traffic on the roads or any emergencies that he had to attend to, it can only mean one thing.
He probably went to meet with who he’s been texting secretly.
3. He becomes secretive
In line with point 2 above, one of the signs he’s texting someone he shouldn’t be is that he becomes secretive.
Recall that we talked about him refusing to talk about his whereabouts sometimes.
To him now hiding things from his spouse, into the mix.
For instance, he puts a password on his phone or changes the old one that his wife knows to a new one so that she’ll no longer have access to his phone.
He might also stop telling her about his daily routine so that she won’t keep track of his activities during the day.
All these point to the possibility of him texting someone he shouldn’t be.
He becomes secretive because he doesn’t want to slip up and get caught.
4. His routine changes suddenly
A sudden change in his routine is enough to raise the eyebrows of his wife.
Perhaps he develops a sudden interest in new activities and picks up new hobbies.
Having new hobbies and being interested in new activities is not bad.
But if the sudden change in routine is accompanied by secretive behavior and frequent outings without his wife, there may be something to worry about.
It could be a sign that he’s trying to make time for someone else or trying to hide something from his wife.
It becomes more founded when the wife has no inkling of when he picked such interests.
If that’s the case, he might be using his change of routine as a cover to create time for and spend time with the person he has been texting secretly.
5. He starts acting oddly different
Like they say, ‘No one knows someone better than their spouse.’
One of the signs my estate neighbor told me she saw in her husband was that he started acting differently.
She watched him closely and sometimes he seemed very distant.
Other times, he was all over her and paid close attention to her.
According to her, his being chummy was a ploy to keep her distracted from the fact that he had been distant for a greater part of that period he’s been texting someone he shouldn’t be.
These erratic and inconsistent changes in his behavior can be a pointer to his texting someone he shouldn’t be.
6. He gets too defensive
I had an ex who suddenly started becoming too defensive about anything and everything.
He was always overreacting whenever I asked him simple questions that needed simple answers.
For instance, whenever we were together and I made reference to something on his phone, he’d flip on me and have an outburst.
I’ll be surprised and point out that I didn’t ask for his phone but it won’t stop him from being angry and saying what he had to say.
Sometimes, when I asked him to tell me about his day, he translated it to me trying to monitor his activities—where he went to and who he was with.
I noticed the trend of him being too defensive and started observing him closely.
Soon enough, I got my chance and found out that he had been texting another woman for some time.
He was even in a relationship with her—the only difference between what they had and what I had with him was that they’d never met physically.
I quietly tendered the evidence of his infidelity and quit the relationship.
7. He is distant emotionally
Being distant emotionally is part of the signs he’s texting someone he shouldn’t be.
Did you notice that his affection for you reduced?
Perhaps he no longer pays attention to you, communicates with you, be there for you when you need him, or even engages with you as much as he used to.
You should know that if he’s not giving those things to you, he’s definitely giving them to someone else.
The reason might be that his attention is going to someone else—the person who he’s texting secretly.