Everything gets easier in a relationship if you’re getting along very well with your partner’s family.
However, sometimes, their family will not like or accept you, and it’s not your fault.
If this is your case, or you’re unsure if your boyfriend’s family likes you, and you are looking for signs his family doesn’t like you, this article will clear your doubts.
It’ll give you a better understanding of the situation and, possibly, your fate.
Below are some of the most common signs his family doesn’t like you.
Enjoy the read!
10 Common Signs His Family Doesn’t Like You
1. They’re not welcoming
One of the biggest signs his family doesn’t like you is if they’re not warm and welcoming towards you.
They are not being welcoming applies to the very first time you meet with them.
But bear in mind that if they’re not welcoming on your first meeting, it can worsen as time passes.
They may act rude to you or, worse, ignore you completely.
Whichever it is, it’s not a good sign, and if you insist on sticking around, it’ll degenerate into them being stand-offish with you.
Simply put, they’ll act distant and cold towards you, no matter how much you try to warm up to them.
They may not be rude to you out rightly, but they’re not friendly and warm either.
For reasons best known to them, they do not like you.
2. They find fault with things about you
No one is perfect, and we all have areas of our lives that we are still working on.
The duty of our friends and people who love us is to magnify the beautiful part of our lives and minimise the not-so-perfect aspects.
Surely, you know that good relationships build you up rather than tear you down.
So, if his family members are always finding faults in every detail about you — makeup, hair, job, clothes or anything at all, it’s a clear sign that they don’t like you.
3. They’re not interested in your well-being
Does his family take an interest in you or ask about how you’re doing?
They may be good at keeping up appearances and acting like they’re friendly or care about you.
But if someone genuinely cares about you, they’ll want to know how you’re doing.
One of the signs his family doesn’t like you is if they don’t show any interest in your life.
They probably don’t care about you too.
4. They’re not interested in connecting with you
Anyone who likes you, at least, will be very delighted to connect with you.
‘Connect’ in this context means to have your phone number, email address or whatever means they can reach you through, home or work address, and any other information that’ll help them stay in touch with you.
His family doesn’t like you if they’re not interested in connecting with you.
You don’t need to warm up and be super close to them before they initiate connecting with you.
5. They speak fondly of his ex-partners in your presence
This is the height of disrespect — members of your partner’s family speaking fondly about his previous partners right in your presence.
To say that it’s bad manners is to be moderate about it.
That’s how much disrespect it oozes.
Adding to disrespecting you, they don’t care much about your feelings too.
Is it safe now to assume that they don’t like you?
6. They purposely forget important details about you
If they choose not to pay attention or show concern when you’re sharing important details about yourself, it’s on them, not you.
People who love and care about you do not forget important pieces of information about you, such as your birthday, your occupation, etc.
And even if they do, they’ll feel so contrite about it.
But if your partner’s family choose not to remember the vital information about you and show no remorse, it’s one of the signs his family doesn’t like you.
7. They don’t invite you to their family events
Whether it’s a hangout, a holiday vacation or a birthday party, if his family doesn’t invite you to family events, it simply means that your presence is unnecessary and they don’t want you around.
I mean, it’s that obvious, and although it’s too painful to digest, it’s the truth, and the earlier you accept it, the better it is for you.
You can dig into why they don’t like you and try to make amends because they don’t like you for some reason.
8. They’re not interested in knowing your family
Do they have no interest in knowing about your family?
It’s one of the signs his family doesn’t like you.
Here you are, putting in the effort to meet with and get to know your partner’s family; the very least they can do to reciprocate is to show interest in knowing your family.
If you and your boyfriend have a long-term relationship and plan to have a future together, both families will be connected eventually.
There’s no big deal in trying to know one or two things about your future in-laws.
So, if his family never asks after your parents, siblings and other loved ones who you value, they either don’t think so highly of you or don’t like you.
9. Your partner tells you
Has your partner ever suggested that his family doesn’t like you?
Maybe something like, “I don’t think they like or accept you.”
Or he told you clearly that his family doesn’t think you’re good enough for him.
Which other sign do you need?
Coming from him who knows them too well, they don’t like you.
At least, it’ll help you know better than trying too hard to impress them or putting too much effort into winning them over.
It’s still your call to make at the end of the day.
10. You can sense that they don’t like you
Your instincts tell you they don’t like you, and your instincts rarely lie.
Although it’s more difficult to identify, you’ll know if you feel it.
If you don’t feel welcome or comfortable around his family or have a bad feeling whenever you’re around them, it may be that they don’t like you.
It may be difficult to come to terms with it, especially if they’re acting nice and caring towards you, but you mustn’t ignore your gut feelings.
People have energies and vibes that surround them, and you need to trust your instincts whenever anything doesn’t feel right.
What To Do If Your Partner’s Family Doesn’t Like You
If your partner’s family doesn’t like you, it’ll not be easy to change the narrative.
First, you should find out why they don’t like you and see if there’s anything you can do to change the way they see you.
Most times, it’s just a case of them looking out for and trying to protect their son or brother and wanting the best for him.
They’re keeping their guards around his partner so that no one gets hurt easily.
If this is the case, they’ll warm up to you with time, especially if your intentions for their son are genuine and you’re of good character.
Things will change for good when they come to know you better through associating with you.
There will only be problems if they don’t like you because they just don’t like you or for some other reason you have no control over them.
It can be as a result of some bias, or some of your words or actions that knowingly or unknowingly offended them, or some deep-seated issues that they’re dealing with on their own.
In situations like this, you have to think things through.
Decide if the family is worth putting in a lot of effort to change the image of you that they already have in their heads.
Conclusion
Ultimately, the ball is in your court, and you alone know what you want.
You’ve seen some of the most common signs his family doesn’t like you.
Are you going to try to change their perception of you?
Will you end the relationship because you feel they’re not worth the stress?
Remember that it is your life and your decision to make and live with.
I wish you all the best in your decision-making.