While in the University, one of my female friends turned down a suitor who was really hot on her heels.
Our circle of friends knew him and their love story. ‘
He really liked her and claimed that she ticked all the boxes of what he wanted in a woman, but at that time, we all (except the guy, sha) knew that my friend wasn’t ready to be in a relationship.
She had a lot of things on her plate, and being in a relationship with anyone was the last thing on her mind, but she didn’t know how to tell the young man who she had grown to like as a person.
She didn’t want it to look like she was rejecting him outrightly.
Well, fortunately for her and unfortunately for him, they talked about genotypes and discovered that they were both ‘AS’.
It was a huge relief for my friend, but the young man was hard hit.
He eventually got married to someone else, but still checks in on my friend and seizes every opportunity to tell her that he wishes it had been her he married.
This man has a wife already o.
How will the woman feel if she hears him saying such a thing to another woman?
Heaven knows how he’ll treat her in the marriage because it’s obvious that his heart lies with someone else.
He might not make it obvious that he wishes he married someone else, but some behaviors will give him away.
In this article, we’ll discuss the signs your husband wishes he married someone else.
Let’s get to it.
5 Signs Your Husband Wishes He Married Someone Else
1. He seems stuck in his past
Anyone who is happy with their spouse and marriage will be enthusiastic and look forward to creating new and better memories in the future with them.
One of the signs your husband wishes he had married someone else is that he seems stuck in the past.
Stay with me.
From time to time, we recall what life was like before we met our spouses and got married to them.
However, we only talk about the past from a reference point, and not because we miss it and want to go back to it.
The story is different for a man who wishes he married someone else.
He’ll look back at his past with fondness and miss it to the point of wishing he could go back to it.
At this point, it’s safe to say that he’s stuck in his past.
He talks about a particular ex, how he misses her, and how he enjoyed every second they spent together.
Now that he’s specific about what’s enticing him back to his past, it’s clear that he wishes he had married that ex instead of his present wife.
2. He compares you to other women
It’s okay for a married man to admire other women who are not his wife.
Don’t get me wrong.
I’m not talking about admiring them sexually.
He might admire their educational qualifications, fashion sense, the way they speak, etc.
There’s nothing wrong with it, although no woman wants her husband to EVER look at another woman.
That feeling is valid too, just that it exists only in storybooks.
Having one or two women he admires and wants his wife to borrow a leaf from in certain aspects of life is not a problem.
However, it becomes a problem when he constantly compares his wife to these women.
It’s as if they’re his yardstick for measuring beautiful, hardworking, eloquent, and successful women.
He’ll let his wife know that as long as she’s not acting like them or replicating everything they do, she’s not measuring up to standard.
Before she realizes what’s going on, this comparison madness will spiral out of control, and he’ll hold her up against work colleagues, neighbors, friends, and perhaps, celebrities.
Worse still, he might add an ex to the list.
When a man loves his wife and is genuinely happy to be with her, he’ll accept and appreciate her individuality.
His constantly comparing her to other women is enough proof that he’s not okay with who she is.
He’s not proud of her and doesn’t think that she’s good enough for him.
3. He’s constantly being negative about your marriage
One of the biggest signs your husband wishes he had married someone else is that he’s constantly being negative about your marriage.
It’s as clear as day that such a man doesn’t love you and is not happy to be married to you.
If not, please explain why a man in his right mind would always have negative things to say about his marriage.
He’s always making sarcastic comments and complaining about your marriage as if it’s a burden to him.
Did you or anyone else force him to marry you?
Why is he acting up?
You might even hear him talking about preferring his single life to your marriage.
Also, you’ll notice that he tends to overlook all the good things happening in the marriage and only focuses on the few bad things.
It’s not as if he’s not aware that marriage is not a bed of roses.
Even if it was, even roses have thorns.
It’s not always sweet, but the good times should surpass the bad times.
However, if he keeps projecting negativities on the marriage and focuses on and magnifies the few lapses that happen in the marriage, it might be an indication that he feels like he would have been happier and more at home if he had married someone else.
4. He doesn’t like spending time with you
No matter how busy people are, they always make time for the people they love and for the things that are important to them.
A man who loves his wife and values his marriage will create time to spend with her.
He doesn’t even need to make a conscious effort to make time for her because he’ll naturally enjoy her company and always look forward to spending time with her whenever he’s not engrossed in work.
However, the reverse is the case for a man who wishes he married someone else.
He might have married his wife physically, but his heart, soul, and mind are with another woman.
It’ll make him to not look forward to spending time with his wife.
He’s always looking for the slightest excuse to get away from her.
He would prefer hanging out with his friends and relatives to spending quality time with his wife and bonding with her.
The moment a man starts viewing spending time with his wife as a chore instead of something he should thoroughly enjoy, it’s a sign that trouble is brewing in paradise.
5. He’s having an affair
A married man having an affair can be an indication that all is not well with his marriage.
What’s worse, however, is him flaunting his affair partner in the face of his wife.
It’s one of the signs your husband wishes he married someone else.
In this case, he’s not hiding the ‘someone else. ‘
Such a man will show his mistress off to you, his wife.
He’ll tell you the reasons why you can’t replace the other woman in his life.
To add insult to injury, he’ll tell her that he’s much happier whenever he’s with his mistress and how she can never measure up to her in any way.
That’s a slap in the face, and it must hurt deeply; I’m not going to lie.
I feel your pain from here, Sis.
However, he might be reluctant to let you go by asking for a divorce, especially if you have kids already.
But then, his actions and words won’t fail to show you that you’ll never be good enough for him.