I remember watching a TV show where a man was cheating on his wife.
The wife (let’s call her Lady A) hung out with her female friends and opened up to them about her husband’s cheating attitude.
One of them (let’s call her Lady B) wanted to know if he was cheating with different women or just one woman, and others really wanted to know what the question had to do with the issue.
Lady B said that it was ‘safer’ for a man to cheat with different women because it shows that he’s not ready to commit to any of them.
According to her, cheating with different women will make him not focus on any of them, and that way, after cheating, he’ll always find his way back home to his wife.
He’ll always be hers, no matter the number of women he has outside.
She went on to say that if he was cheating with just one woman, the wife should be worried and feel unsafe in the marriage.
This is because his attention outside will be on one woman, and it will be easy for him to become emotionally attached to the other woman.
While I don’t know what to make of Lady B’s opinion, I do know that cheating is a terrible betrayal of trust.
However, it is also possible for a man to become emotionally attached to his affair partner.
Talk of adding salt to injury!
In this article, we will look at the signs he’s emotionally attached to the other woman.
8 Signs He’s Emotionally Attached To The Other Woman
1. She has his mumu button
One of the signs he’s emotionally attached to the other woman is that she has his mumu button.
Most men usually come off as unapproachable, inaccessible, and impenetrable.
Some of their wives and children are even scared of them.
Imagine the surprise and shock to find out that such a man has someone who has his mumu button.
They’ll be more surprised to know that it’s his mistress.
She doesn’t need to ask twice before he does her bidding.
Trust him to always come through for her whenever she needs him.
When she says, “Jump,” he’ll ask, “How high?”
She can never do anything wrong in his eyes.
He’s so smitten by her, and it is very evident.
Whatever she does is right; however she does, it is the only way to do it.
From every indication, he reserves the best side of himself for her.
2. He defends her
When a man is emotionally attached to the other woman in his life, he’ll always defend her.
As I mentioned in point 1, she can never do any wrong in his eyes.
He thinks that she is the best thing that has ever happened to him.
He might even regret not meeting her before his wife.
It’s safe to say that his emotions for her are getting in the way of his logical reasoning.
One of the easiest ways to offend such a man and get in his bad books is by speaking against his mistress.
He’ll give you a piece of his mind while defending her to the ends of the earth and trust me, it won’t be funny for you at all.
3. He becomes jelly-like when they quarrel
If a man becomes morose only whenever he has a fallout with his mistress, it’s one of the signs he’s emotionally attached to the other woman.
Such a man is usually the type I earlier described as impenetrable, inaccessible, and greatly feared.
In line with point 1, she has his mumu button, and so anything she does for or against him affects him greatly.
Whenever he has disagreements with her, he’ll become jelly-like.
It doesn’t matter if he’s wrong or not, he’ll always apologise to her for peace to reign.
I saw a movie where this married man was heartbroken over his side chick.
He cried so much that his wife felt weird because her seemingly hard-core husband was suddenly humble.
It’s an indication that he’s emotionally attached to the other woman.
4. Her influence over him is greater than his wife’s
Anyone who someone is emotionally attached to will likely have more influence over that person than others.
It’s a no-brainer.
When a man is emotionally attached to his mistress, she’ll have more influence on him than his wife.
The reason is simple — his loyalty will lie with his emotions.
He’ll always want to please her and do right by her.
For instance, he might have been ignoring his wife whenever she mentions an attitude that he needs to drop because it won’t take him anywhere.
It’ll take just one mention from the other woman for him to start making a conscious effort to change for the better.
Then, if his wife and mistress both need him to be with them at the same time and with good reasons, he’ll choose to be with the other woman.
Sometimes, the other woman doesn’t need any reason to want him to be with her.
He’s just a phone call or text away from her, while his wife can stay for days without seeing him or knowing his whereabouts.
It’s one of the obvious signs he’s emotionally attached to the other woman.
5. He doesn’t see his wife anymore
If a married man is emotionally invested in another woman, his wife will become as good as invisible to him.
His focus will be mainly on the other woman while he treats his wife like one of the pieces of furniture in the house.
He doesn’t see or care about his wife anymore.
He is no longer the man she fell in love with and got married to.
He’ll forget her birthday, their wedding anniversary, and other dates that are remarkable and important to her.
He might also be standing her up when they make plans to go on dates or attend events together.
As expected, he’ll always have flimsy excuses to back up his absence.
6. He spends lavishly on her
Another possible sign that a married man is emotionally attached to the other woman is that he spends lavishly on her.
This one usually comes as a huge shock if he isn’t naturally generous.
His family and friends know him as a tight-fisted person who is very calculative about spending money.
Nigerians popularly call such men “Aka gum.”
He never has money to give to anyone, including his wife, except if it’s important.
If he’s the direct opposite of his stingy self with the other woman, he’s very generous with her and spends lavishly on her, then it has happened!
He takes her on shopping sprees, stocks her house, places her on a monthly allowance, and generally funds her lifestyle; if she needs anything, all she has to do is ask him, and he gets it for her.
Bruh isn’t just emotionally attached; he is emotionally entangled!