6 Things A Wife Should Never Do

Although it is the joint responsibility of the husband and the wife to make their marriage work, certain things are expected of a woman.

Don’t get me wrong.

Men also have their roles, but in this article, we’ll focus on the things a wife should never do because they’ll destroy her marriage.

Doing the things to be discussed in this piece will create an unfavorable environment where everyone is uncomfortable and feels unsafe.

It should never be forgotten that happiness and peace are the primary goals of marriage.

Let’s take a look at some of the things a wife should never do.

6 Things A Wife Should Never Do

1. Make Use Of Critical And Sarcastic Statements, Facial Expressions, And Gestures

One of the easiest and quickest ways of showing your husband that you don’t respect his opinion is by criticizing him.

Criticism can be overwhelming generally, and the response of some men to it is to withdraw, shut down, or look for appreciation and happiness elsewhere.

You’ll understand this better if what you have to say has ever been discounted by someone who didn’t listen to you.

Your husband will feel unvalued and attacked when you’re sarcastic or critical of him.

Do your best to listen to him when he speaks, even if you have contributions, suggestions, or questions regarding what he’s saying. 

Don’t interrupt him.

I have witnessed many wives interrupt their husbands when they are speaking and not letting them unburden their hearts.

I am also guilty of this!

I find myself interrupting my husband whenever we have a discussion, especially when we are trying to settle a quarrel, and I see how it irritates him.

It takes self-control to listen and not interrupt whenever our men talk.

Let your man talk!

Also, making sarcastic facial expressions or rolling your eyes when he’s speaking is disrespectful.

Just as they piss you off when your teenage child does it to you, it is irritating to your husband.

Even if you’ve been married for quite some time and you’ve known him even longer, you don’t have to be rude to him.

Giving him your attention, looking at him, and listening to him is more important than shaking your head or rolling your eyes at him.

The goal is to build a bond with the man you married, not to destroy his self-esteem.

2. Hurt Him With Her Words

Women are experts at using the sharpest words to belittle, shame, and demean other people.

Once words are spoken, they cannot be taken back again.

No matter how much you apologize, the damage has been done already.

Nothing will make the hurt and sting of your harsh words go away from your husband once you let the words out.

One of the things a wife should never do is lash out at and hurt her husband with her words.

Being subject to verbal abuse over the years can make your husband wary and weary of you.

He might even begin to care less about you.

Instead of using your words as weapons, they should be used positively to uplift and soothe your husband.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

3. Starve Him Of Sex And Affection

 

Whether you notice this or not, this particular attitude can create a big break in your marriage.

Men and women are wired differently.

What your husband needs is physical release through sexual intimacy.

He is not just demanding it from you; he needs it from you.

And when you do not want to satisfy his need for a physical release, it sends a deeper message: you do not respect or care about his needs.

We’re not talking about whether you like or dislike sex here.

It is much higher than that.

As much as you, your partner needs to connect with you on the physical level and shouldn’t be denied that.

Women need closeness and emotional release, while men require closeness and physical release.

All of them are in order, even if you both want different things.

In your quest to meet your needs, you shouldn’t neglect his needs.

4. Have Unrealistic Expectations

One of the things a wife should never do to her husband is have unrealistic expectations of him.

When you seek fulfillment from just your husband and then project your unhappiness on him when he falls short of your standard, your marriage is rolling down a cliff.

Check the reality you’re living whenever you feel unhappy.

If your expectations are tailored to fit your situation’s reality, you’ll lead a happier life.

Expecting your children or spouse to make you happy always is highly unrealistic.

You can be happy all by yourself.

Besides, one person can’t have it all.

We have different people in our lives who play different roles and fill different positions.

They are different, and none is more important than the other.

Do not expect your husband to be everything to you.

Not only are you heading for disappointment, but he’ll also fail woefully in the task you’re presenting him with.

Expand your circle to include different people who will play different roles in your life instead of expecting one person to be everything to you.

More importantly, look inside you for ways to be happy and complete.

Your happiness lies within, so discover it first.

5. Undermine His Authority

Every organization has someone in charge, a leader per se.

Typically, the person who bears the responsibility ought to have the final say.

Relationships, marriages, and families are just like every other organization.

There has to be someone in charge, someone everyone can depend on and turn to, someone who will take responsibility when things go south.

If you are willing to take full responsibility when the chips are down, you can take on the role of a leader.

It is always easy to think that you can do better and criticize the person in charge when you’re not in charge.

The time to take responsibility is always the most difficult.

You can work together with your husband rather than making decisions on your own without any contribution from your husband and then blaming him when things don’t work out.

Together, you can decide how things should be done and let him have the final say whenever decisions need to be made.

6. Disregard His Advice And Opinions

There are a lot of differences between men and women.

Men are fixers in nature.

This means they come up with feasible ways to solve a problem when presented with one.

Being dismissive about his advice or suggestion sends a message that you do not value him.

Disregarding his opinion and advice is one of the things a wife should never do.

Expect that your husband will devise a plan to solve any problem you present to him.

His way may not be something you fancy, but at least he is offering you a solution, and the least you can do is hear him out and appreciate him for trying to solve the problem.

And before you trash his suggestion because it is not your thing, please think about it.

He may not be totally correct, but you might find some of it helpful.

 

Conclusion

Even though marriage is a joint venture, each party within the union is responsible for loving, respecting, and honoring the other.

Think of it as watering and nurturing your relationship.

Building relationships that stand the test of time takes a lot of wisdom.

I hope this article is helpful to you.

Do let me know in the comments.