In as much as sex is an important ingredient of a successful marriage, it is considered beautiful when the experience turns out to be fulfilling and satisfying for the participants.
With constant practice and open communication, couples learn how best to pleasure each other and achieve maximum satisfaction.
From then on, whether it’s a long or short session, every time such a couple has sex, the experience is sweet and memorable.
There’s one thing that’s as important as the sexual experience itself—the actions that come immediately after sexual intimacy happens.
People have different things they want to do, and expectations of their spouse post-sex.
Men in particular just want to sleep after having sex, but women want other things.
There are things women wish their husbands would do after physical intimacy.
Most times, they end up not opening up to their husbands about these wishes, which will make a great difference in their marriage when discussed.
They are some of the things that make a woman feel loved and valued, especially after having sex.
However, not talking about them makes them secrets, and men aren’t mind readers.
In this article, I’ll throw open, the things women secretly wish their husbands would do after physical intimacy.
Expectations vary from person to person, but there are still general ones, and they’re what we’ll be looking at today.
Dear men, this article is specifically designed for you, but anyone else is welcome to read.
So, please grab your seat as we go on this journey together.
7 Things Women Secretly Wish Their Husbands Would Do After Physical Intimacy
1. Show appreciation
One of the things women secretly wish their husbands would do after physical intimacy is to show appreciation.
Appreciation is one thing that never goes out of fashion, and it’s very important in marriages.
I once listened to a female guest speaker who said that her husband always said ‘Thank you’ to her for every time they had sex.
It sounded weird and funny then.
But now, I think I understand better.
Some women want their husbands to express their appreciation after having a great time together.
It doesn’t have to be an epistle or anything much.
A simple statement such as, “I enjoyed every bit of our time together.” “You were super amazing today.” or “That was a great experience.” can suffice.
The aim is to make her feel valued and appreciated.
2. Have a gentle conversation
All some women want to do after being physically intimate with their husbands is to stay in bed with him and engage in a conversation.
I’m not talking about the loud conversations that happen in our daily interactions.
I’m referring to soulful, quiet conversations that can pass for pillow talks.
As a couple, you talk about different things and share jokes, thoughts, and feelings in a gentle manner.
The fact that you’re able to hold such conversations right after physical intimacy makes it even more special.
In my opinion, it’s another type of intimacy on its own.
You can seize that moment to express your feelings to her, reassure her of your undying love, or ask her how she feels about the exercise you both just had.
These tiny things add to the ‘specialness’ of the sexual experience.
3. Lay together and cuddle
Body contact with your spouse doesn’t have to end just because the sex is over.
Women wish that their husbands will still maintain body contact with them for some time after physical intimacy.
A man should stay in bed with his wife, hold her close, stroke her hair, and cuddle her while they catch their breath from the exercise.
I personally love to entangle my legs with my husband’s and remain in that position for some time.
He has come to understand that I love doing it, and just allows me to do my thing whether or not we were intimate prior.
This action might be simple, but it makes a woman feel safe and loved.
4. Avoid getting distracted immediately
I’ve never seen any woman who wants her husband to be distracted immediately after sex.
I was in the market some days ago and I overhead a woman telling her neighbor the reason she picked a fight with her husband.
She said that a few minutes after they finished having sex, he received a phone call and rushed out to hang out with some of his friends who came around their area.
According to her, she was so angry and felt very unimportant.
You see, it’s not right that you go from having sex one moment to engaging in some other activity the next moment.
For instance, you get up and leave the bed immediately after sex, pick up your phone and start scrolling through, or turn the TV on to watch a football match.
Take some time to savor what you just shared with your wife.
Give her your full attention, even if it’s for some minutes.
It’ll show her that you really love her and cherish the time you spent together.
5. Be affectionate to her
I know that all that’s on your mind once you roll over is to get some good sleep.
But can you hold on a bit with that?
Take some time to be affectionate to your wife.
Expressing little gestures such as rubbing her back, holding her hands, kissing her shoulder or forehead, and stroking her hair might be just what she needs from you right after physical intimacy.
She wants to know that you truly care about her, and it runs deeper than mere physical attraction.
Being affectionate to her lets her know exactly that.
6. Pay attention to her
There are different emotions that come with sex, and some women experience a mix of emotions after being intimate with their husbands.
What such a woman needs is for her husband to be caring and comforting towards her.
He has to pay attention to her needs to be able to identify and sort them out.
It doesn’t matter if she wants to be left alone, have some peace and quiet, laugh, talk, or just relax; paying attention will help her man to grant her wishes.
That singular act will show her that he understands and respects her.
7. Make plans together
There are women who choose to make plans for the immediate future with their husbands immediately after being intimate.
For such a woman, her wish is valid.
He is her husband, after all, and she can do whatever she wants as long as it’s in their best interest.
So, if she wants to make plans for either the next few days or even months, she expects her husband to be in sync with her.
As a man, you don’t want her to feel that you only come close to her whenever you need sexual gratification.
She wants to be involved in every aspect of your life as much as she involves you in hers.
By making plans with her, you’re reaffirming that you’re with her for more than just sex.