There are types of people you should never confide in, even if the world is caving in on you.
First of all, confiding in someone means giving them a private piece of information to you.
And you can only confide in someone who you trust.
Let me quickly point out that you don’t trust only the person you’re in a relationship with.
In this context, we’re also referring to friends, family members, colleagues, and other people who are close to you.
Everyone has secrets, as well as topics that they find difficult to discuss.
When pushed to talk about such matters, you tend to look for someone you can confide in.
That is, someone who you trust will not take your information and make it open for public consumption.
However, you can never know everyone too well.
There are people you confide in, and in the end, you realize that you made a mistake by doing that.
The signs may be glaring or subtle, but if you’re not paying attention, you won’t be able to spot them till they start dealing with you.
In this article, we’ll talk about the different types of people you should never confide in.
We’ll also share pointers on how to know that they’re who we are labeling them to be to avoid further confusion on your part.
If you read to the end, you’ll get maximum value for your time.
Let’s get started.
9 Types Of People You Should Never Confide In
1. Abusers
One of the types of people you should never confide in are abusers.
I’m referring to all types of abuse, ranging from emotional and financial to physical abuse.
If this person is jealous, possessive, controlling, and always want to have their way by trying to guilt trip or blackmail you, it’s safe to say that they are abusive.
You shouldn’t confide in people like that because they’ll likely use whatever you told them in confidence against you.
You won’t expect it, but they’ll hit you with it when you are at your lowest point.
2. Users
Simply put, users are people who are always looking for the slightest opportunity to take advantage of you.
And it doesn’t matter if your situation is good or bad.
They’ll find a way to use it to their advantage.
For instance, you know a user who is fronting as a humanitarian.
Now, you confide in them about a life-threatening situation that you’re experiencing.
Let me paint a picture of what will happen with them.
They promise to help you seek or obtain financial help from the public or any of the organizations they work with.
A user will get you to agree to give them a percentage of the entire money you’ll get from the SOS simply because the help came through them.
And it doesn’t matter to them if you don’t get all the help you need.
They’re usually selfish and greedy people.
All that’s important to them is their cut, not that you are okay in the end.
3. Manipulators
Manipulators are one of the types of people you should never confide in.
They are not really different from abusers in the sense that they try to get everything to go their way.
They are masters at playing mind games and twisting situations to their advantage.
Manipulators are skilled at making you doubt yourself and your decisions, making it easier for them to control and manipulate you.
They will often use guilt, fear, and emotional manipulation to get what they want from you.
Avoid sharing personal information or seeking advice from manipulators as they may use it against you in the future.
4. Gossip mongers
Another set of people you should never confide in is the gossip mongers.
These people love to peddle gossip.
Now, they won’t necessarily call it gossip.
They’re well known for always having interesting stories, gists and secrets about other people.
They are also always ready to share these stories with whoever listens.
And they’re very methodical in getting stories out of their unsuspecting victims.
You’ll find them always asking personal and in-depth questions about other people but very unwilling to share even the tiniest details about themselves.
Secondly, whenever they’re around you, you’ll notice that they have one or two gists to share about person A or B.
You should never confide in them because if they talk to you about someone today, they’ll definitely talk to someone else about you tomorrow.
Who knows?
That thing you confided in them about might be the only gist they have about you, and they’ll not hesitate to share it with the next available ear that’s willing to listen.
5. Betrayers
Betrayers are on the list of people you should never confide in.
These will not think twice before stabbing you in the back.
They are very selfish people whose loyalty does not lie with anyone.
In fact, their loyalty changes like the water waves—they sway to whoever dances to their tunes and favors them the most.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them or the type of relationship you have with them.
A betrayer will easily sell you to the highest bidder once it suits them.
Just like manipulators, they are very selfish and only think about themselves and not about others.
6. Chronic liars
There is a clear difference between a liar and a chronic liar.
People tend to tell lies from time to time to avoid difficult situations, even though it’s not the right thing to do.
But that’s not who a chronic liar is.
Chronic liars have several identities that they have created for themselves and different people simultaneously.
They are never found wanting to tell lies.
Their stories are often inconsistent because they lie so much that they can’t keep up with their own lies.
Also, they are always on the defensive when you point out any inconsistencies in their stories.
You should never confide in a chronic liar because they will find a way to make your story about themselves or even turn the table on you.
7. Unreliable people
What business do you have with confiding in an unreliable person, even if they are the last people on earth?
As their name implies, they’re not to be trusted, and you’ll be doing yourself a great disservice by entrusting your story to them.
You don’t know what to expect when you leave your story to an unreliable person.
They can choose to blackmail you with it, manipulate you, or use it against you.
Confide in them at your own expense.
8. Drama kings or queens
Dramatic people are the ones who are very extra about everything.
They like to think that the world revolves around them.
And whenever they are not being the center of attention, they feel bad and left out.
If you confide in a dramatic person, they’ll find a way to insert themselves into your story, even if it doesn’t add up.
That way, they’ll water down whatever it is you told them.
But they don’t care about that because all they desire is to squeeze themselves into the story and take the spotlight.
9. The ‘Oh yes’ members
‘Oh yes’ members are simply people who want to always be on your good side.
They will always tell you what you want to hear.
Although this might look like a good thing at the beginning of your relationship with them, you’ll not go far in life if you keep surrounding yourself with these people.
Even when the truth is glaring, they’ll want to play safe with you and be in your good books.
While you need people who will give you a vote of confidence and stand by your side, you also need people who will tell you the truth as it is, no matter how bitter the pill is to swallow, because it’ll help you grow.
Now, imagine confiding in an ‘oh yes’ member.
They’ll have nothing reasonable to offer you than to smoothen your ego and speak in your favor.
In my opinion, you should keep your story to yourself rather than confide in such a person.