What happens when you stop chasing a man?
You know you shouldn’t be chasing a man, but sometimes you can forget all the relationship advice you hear and read and find yourself pursuing him anyway.
This is quite tempting if he’s your spec and you can’t imagine your life without him.
But what happens if you stop chasing him?
Let’s find out.
What Happens When You Stop Chasing A Man?
1. He starts to miss you and may realize what he has been missing out on
If you have been chasing after a man for some time, he may have become comfortable in the relationship and stopped trying to pursue you.
However, when you stop chasing him, it may take him by surprise and make him realize what he has been missing out on.
He may start to miss you and your attention, and that can make him start to pursue you.
2. He begins to appreciate and value you more
When you stop chasing a man, he may begin to realize how valuable and important you are in his life.
He may start to take time out of his day to call or text you and show that he is interested in spending time with you.
He may also start to appreciate the things that you do for him and value your opinion more.
3. He begins to respect you
When a man stops feeling like he is being pursued all of the time, he may begin to respect you more as an individual.
He will be less likely to take advantage of your affections and will be more likely to treat you like an equal.
He may also start to make more of an effort in the relationship by taking initiative and doing things for you without having to be asked.
This is because you’ve stepped back and allowed him to take the lead.
Think about it, why would a man take the lead if you’re always doing so?
4. His opinion of you might change in a positive way as he realizes that you have other things going on in your life besides him
He may start to see you as more of an independent woman and appreciate the fact that you have your own passions and pursuits, which makes you all the more attractive in his eyes.
When you are clingy and chasing a man, he may be turned off by this behavior, but when you show him that you have other interests and are living a fulfilling life outside of him, he will see you in a different light.
Because men value women who have a life of their own.
5. You discover yourself more
There’s no doubt that relationships take a lot of work and effort, and this can make you focus less on yourself.
When you’re chasing a man, you’re focused on him and what you can do to ensure he stays with you.
That means that your own needs are often put on the back burner.
But when you stop chasing, you’ll find that there are things in your life that are missing—and now is the time to figure out what those things are.
You will have more time to explore new hobbies or hone existing skills, allowing you to become even more confident in yourself and the direction of your life.
6. You are less likely to settle for less
When you chase a man, it makes you more likely to accept anything.
You’re willing to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you right because at least they’re there—and that’s better than being alone.
But when you stop chasing a man, it gives you space to figure out what kind of relationship is worth your time and energy.
You can find yourself in a place where there really is no one else available, so you finally have to start looking at yourself and deciding what quality matters most to you.
7. You will learn to take care of yourself better
When you’re chasing a man, your focus is on him.
You’re trying to get him to notice you and doing everything in your power to be the woman he wants.
You make yourself as available as possible, and when that doesn’t work, you try harder.
But when you stop chasing a man, it’s not about what you can do for him anymore—it’s about what he can do for you.
Suddenly, your priorities change.
Instead of looking for ways to improve yourself so that he’ll want you more, now all of that energy goes into making sure you are happy and fulfilled.
You start paying attention to your health and well-being—and because of this shift in focus, suddenly, those things start improving.
You start getting better sleep, eating healthier foods, and enjoying time with friends or family members who really matter.
This is amazing, sis.
8. You’ll know what he wants from you
When you stop chasing a man, he will either start chasing you or leave.
And that is when you’ll know what he wants from you.
If he starts chasing you, you’ll know he loves and wants to be with you.
If he leaves, then it’s a sign that he was never truly interested in the first place.
So you can move on confidently, knowing what direction is right for you.
But if you don’t stop chasing him, how will you know this?
9. You have opportunities for new connections
When you’re focused on one man, it’s hard to see the bigger picture and think about what else might be out there for you.
But when you don’t chase him, you will have more time and energy to make new connections.
You could meet someone through friends, in a class or club, at the gym, or even online, without thinking you are cheating on someone.
These connections can open up a world of possibilities that you may never have thought of.
You could find someone who is the perfect fit for you and make an amazing connection.
There’s this saying where I come from that, ”When you’ve not been to other people’s farms, you’d think your father’s farm is the best.”
It literally means that when you don’t explore other options, you would think your current option is the best.
10. Self-love, baby
I know we all desire to be loved by a romantic partner when you stop chasing a man, you may realize you don’t need a man to be happy.
You find ways to make yourself happy and more importantly, to be okay with not finding a man for a while.
You might even find that being single isn’t as bad as you thought it was.
Self-love is essential, and that’s something nobody can take away from you.
Anyone can stop loving you; anyone can leave you.
But you can never leave yourself or stop loving yourself if you don’t allow yourself to.
So being single for a while is the perfect opportunity to practice self-love and learn more about yourself, your likes, dislikes, fears, strengths, and weaknesses.
11. Your self-esteem will be improved
When you chase a man, you are giving him all of the power in your relationship.
That means you are putting our happiness and self-confidence in his hands.
But when you stop doing that, you’ll feel like an empowered, confident woman.
You’ll be able to enjoy your life more because you won’t spend all of it trying to convince him that you’re worth his time.
These are things that happen when you stop chasing a man.
You really shouldn’t be chasing a man who isn’t chasing you.
He should be chasing you, or you both are chasing each other.
Period!
