Have you ever witnessed a situation where a man claims to love two women but doesn’t know who to choose between them?
It might sound unbelievable and funny, but it happens.
The word ‘love’ has been misconstrued countless times, and its true meaning seems to be lost on some people.
If a man claims to love two women, there must be a back story with a twist.
When you start thinking about it from a plain point of view, you might not make a head or tail out of it.
So, knowing the back story will go a long way to help you get the full picture.
That’s why we’ve stepped in with this piece to break it down for you.
Here, we’ll be talking about the things it means when he claims to love both of you.
When He Claims To Love Both Of You: 9 Things It Means
1. His feelings are torn between the two of you
When a man claims to love two women at the same time, it can simply mean that his feelings are torn between the two of them.
Now, we don’t know if what he feels is really what he calls it – love.
It might also be infatuation or lust, but we’re not ruling out the possibility of an element of love.
As a woman, if you are okay with the idea of sharing your man with another woman, you can go ahead and stay with him.
However, you must not expect such a man to be faithful to you because he will not be.
2. He’s a narcissist
Another meaning we can deduce from a man who claims to love two women at the same time is that he’s a narcissist.
Such a man has succeeded in creating a love triangle with two women.
If we’re being honest, he most likely deceived these women by telling each of them that he had no other partner.
When both of them got deeply involved with him, he opened a can of worms.
This method of psychological abuse is one of the common tactics of narcissists.
By claiming to love both of them, he aims to pitch them against each other.
He’s creating jealousy and rivalry between them.
There are women who exchange physical blows in cases like this.
Then comes the competition to outdo the other woman in a bid to win his love and affection.
When a narcissist resorts to psychological abuse, he wants to feel desired and sought after.
I can tell you for free that such a man is a walking red flag.
3. He’s scared of hurting either of you
Sometimes, a guy who claims to love two women might actually be scared of hurting the feelings of the two women.
I heard a story about a young man who was single but had a close female bestie.
For a long time, he was oblivious to the fact that his bestie was in love with him.
One day, he met a lady he liked and started dating.
His female bestie was upset but hid it under being busy and gave him space, springing up different excuses.
While on the one hand, he had this lovely lady he was in love with, on the other hand, he missed his bestie so much his heart ached.
It felt like he had lost a part of himself with her absence.
It took another friend to help him see what he had been shying away from: He was in love with his female bestie!
I know this sounds like a wild romantic triangle, but it happens.
The young man found himself torn between his female bestie and his girlfriend.
He loved the two of them but in different ways.
He also didn’t want to hurt them.
If this is the peculiarity of your situation, the background story will be the determining factor.
However, the man will have to make a decision, or better still, you need to decide on what you want.
After all, he cannot eat his cake and have it.
4. He is sexually entangled
Sometimes, sexual entanglement can make a man claim to love two women.
Remember that cheating is not only when sex is involved.
He has been cheating on you emotionally by texting, calling, and catching feelings for another woman.
Now, he has added sex to the mix, and it has complicated the situation further.
A certain man who claimed to love his woman to bits got sexually entangled with another woman.
I don’t know the back story, but he started seeing the other woman alongside his original partner.
When his close friends probed him to know what was really going on with him, he opened up to them.
He said that he had tried to end the affair with the other woman several times, but somehow, the sex kept taking him back.
Sometimes, he’ll think of the mind-blowing sex and see himself texting or calling her.
Other times, if he asks to see her to end the affair, they’ll end up in bed, and his resolve to leave her will be weakened.
So, yes.
The sex can make the entanglement more tangled.
5. He never loved you
You need to snap back to reality if a guy claims to love you and another lady.
I don’t think that you should be okay with him saying such a thing to you.
In my opinion, he’s being very disrespectful not only to you but also to the other lady.
For starters, if he ever loved you or the other woman in the first place (depending on who he met first), he’d have no business with falling in love with another person.
That’s the bitter truth, and it’s up to you to use the information as you please.
Back in the day, I saw a movie where a man moved on from his girlfriend of six years to get engaged and marry a woman he met in less than six months.
When the ex came looking for closure from him, he told her it was quite simple — he never loved her and moved on the moment he met someone he genuinely loved.
You can say no to further disrespect by removing yourself from the equation, or you can choose to stay and tolerate whatever he dishes further.
6. He has lost interest in you
I have some male friends, and I learned what I’m about to share with you through my interactions with them.
Sometimes, when a guy claims to love two women while in a relationship, it is a sign that he has lost interest in his present relationship.
He’s openly but discreetly declaring his intention to be with another woman (the one he claims to love alongside his partner).
A man who genuinely loves you will try his best to make your relationship work.
However, saying that he loves you and another woman simultaneously shows that he has stopped seeing a future with you.
In the opinion of my male friends, this is a signal that the man has lost interest in you and the relationship.
Despite saying that he loves you, he’s very willing to let go of your relationship and be with another woman.
7. He doesn’t think much of you
Sometimes, when a man claims to love both of you, it means that he doesn’t think much of you.
In Nigerian street lingo, “He no rate you.”
If you look at the situation well, you gave him the opportunity to treat you on a platter.
I used to know a lady who saw men as trophies that should be won and kept.
By Jove, her life revolved around any man she dated, and her poor choice of men and how they treated her in relationships reflected her mentality.
I never saw any of her partners treat her with love and respect because she had none of it for herself.
I mean, people treat you exactly the way you treat yourself and demand to be treated.
So, seeing that her every breath was dedicated to pleasing the man in her life to her own detriment, every man who dated her while I knew her treated her trashy.
Being in a relationship with such a woman will give a man the leeway to cheat on her and claim to love both women.
8. He is confused
Confusion is understandable for a child but not a full-grown ass man.
One of the possible meanings of a man claiming to love two women is that he is confused.
It’s likely that Bro doesn’t even know what he wants in a woman and just goes with the flow.
He doesn’t have a spec and doesn’t mind jumping from one woman to another for the fun of it.
He can juggle talking to two or more women just because he can.
He also uses it to brag to his friends.
It is screaming immaturity.
This kind of man is usually not ready for romantic relationships.
He’s just wasting your time.
9. You need to move on
Sometimes, the answers we seek are hidden in plain sight.
It’s just that, at times, we’re afraid of facing reality and so remain stuck in our predicaments.
When he claims to love both of you, it can be a signal for you to move on from him and the relationship.
You might have been getting other signs that it’s time to say goodbye to him, but this sign takes the cup.
Him telling you that he can’t seem to decide the woman he prefers is a big slap on your face.
Sis, you’re not supposed to be an option.
You should be a priority.
The kind of man you need is the one who wants to be with you and you alone all the time.
You deserve a man who doesn’t have to divide his love and attention between two or twenty women.