Love…
Just think about it and see how your idea of love has evolved over the years.
As kids, we expressed love by sharing toys and then later moved on to slipping notes to the person we liked.
It didn’t stop at this.
We grew older and learned how to say, “I love you.”
We learned to go on dates and spend quality time together.
But love isn’t complete if it doesn’t make you develop habits you didn’t have before.
This is probably why you may have dated a guy who seemed so perfect… until he just stopped being that way.
If you have been in this sort of situation, it is normal to start questioning things when you meet another perfect guy.
It is like deja vu.
It feels like you are just replaying a memory from the past.
It even feels like you can’t know for sure when a man is truly in love with you.
Well, I have good news for you.
There are some charming habits that men only develop when they are in love.
When you spot these habits in a man you are in a relationship with, they are signs that he is in love with you and is in the relationship for the long haul.
To help you identify these habits, I have curated a comprehensive list of them.
Come along, let’s see what the habits are and if your man has any of them.
12 Charming Habits Men Develop When They’re In Love
1. He develops a genuine interest in your life
As humans, we have to interact with each other.
It is one of the most fundamental habits of man.
However, in our interactions, it is rare to find people who seem to be genuinely interested in you or what you are doing.
I personally think that “How are you?” is one of the most abused pleasantries because we often ask this question even when we are not interested in the answer.
It’s just like a routine we involve ourselves in, just to make the other person feel like we care.
When a man is in love with you, he becomes a genuine interest in your life.
You may have noticed that the way he listens to you has changed.
In the past, he may have only listened to you politely.
Now, he listens because he is interested.
When he asks questions like “How are you?” or “How did your day go?”.
He doesn’t just want the generic answer you give everyone regardless of what you are going through.
He doesn’t want to hear “fine”.
He wants to truly know if you are fine; if you are not, he genuinely wants to know what he can do to help you.
Such a wholesome sense of concern and interest in your life doesn’t come to men naturally.
It is a habit they develop when they are in love with you.
2. He talks about his feelings
Vulnerability is one thing that doesn’t come easily to most men.
We have been trained to be tough, strong, and calm, even in the face of impending danger.
A man doesn’t cry or appear weak in any way…
Or so we were taught as kids.
We grow up, learning to isolate our emotions and make them seem like nothing.
However, when a man is in love, he begins to unlearn this habit.
He gradually realizes that a successful relationship is only successful because both parties are open with their emotions.
It may be hard in the beginning just like developing constructive habits can be, but this is one of the charming habits men develop when they are in love.
They learn to share their fears, hopes, and anxieties with you, and they do this not because they have a goal in mind, but because they love you.
Being vulnerable with each other in a relationship is one of the best things that can happen to it.
It fosters intimacy and strengthens the connection between partners.
The fact that he is vulnerable with you is a great sign for the relationship.
It shows that he is not only concerned about being there for you, he also knows that you have his back whenever he needs you and he is not ashamed to do so.
It takes a lot of time for a man to develop this charming habit but with love and patience, it is not impossible.
3. He spends quality time with you
I don’t want to sound like I am generalizing, but most men I know prefer to hang out with other men.
We like to have drinks with the guys, play video games, or just watch live sports together.
And for a guy like me, I prefer to spend time in my house, reading novels.
The last time I was in love, all of these changed for me.
I spent more time with her than I did reading novels and for video games with the guys, I became an August visitor.
This is what happens when a man is in love with you.
He wants to spend his time with you.
When he thinks of how to spend his leisure time, he thinks of you first.
He wants to go on dates with you…
Dinners, lunch, movies, picnics, or something as simple as just strolling in the park.
4. He laughs a lot
One of the most charming habits a man develops when he is in love with you is that he laughs a lot.
He really takes the “a day without laughter is a day wasted” quote by Charlie Chaplin seriously.
You may not even consider yourself naturally funny, but when a guy is in love, he laughs a lot in your company.
In fact, his mirth doesn’t end when he leaves your presence because even in your absence, people around him can see the difference.
They know that he is happier and more at peace with himself and the world.
5. He appreciates you
It is normal to appreciate someone who does something for you.
So, if it’s so normal, why does it seem like we have so many unappreciated people?
The simple answer is that true appreciation is quite rare now.
Where I come from, there is a proverb that says, “If you appreciate the favor of yesterday, you will receive another.”
Many people appreciate others because they want more.
Not because they truly appreciate them.
When a man is truly in love with you, he develops the habit of being grateful for having you in his life.
He notices every little effort you make in the relationship and appreciates you.
His appreciation is so heartfelt and you just know that even if you did nothing, he would still be happy to have you in his life.
6. He grooms himself well
Well, there are guys who already love to dress fashionably, and there are some others like me who just wear whatever is close to hand.
The odds are he was like me, in the beginning, making no effort to look good because he feels like no one is looking at him.
Then, he suddenly changes.
He starts taking note of his appearance and ensuring that he looks good especially when he is meeting with you.
This is one of the charming habits men develop when they are in love.
I know this because the last time I cared about my appearance was the last time I was in love.
This isn’t general for all men because some men are already very conscious of their appearance but even for them, they pay more attention to their grooming than they would normally.
This is because a man who is in love with you would always want to look good for you.
7. He becomes more tender and kind
What’s love if it doesn’t soften even the hardest men?
When a man is in love with you, he becomes more tender and kind when dealing with you.
He just wants to treat you with so much tenderness that you may be worried he thinks you are fragile.
I know the modern woman has an ax to grind with that “damsel in distress” image because it makes women look helpless.
He doesn’t think you are fragile; rather, he believes you are the queen of his life and should be treated as such.
Hence, he is really sensitive to your needs.
He knows when you want comforted and ensures he is there for you.
His entire priority is to ensure that you feel safe when you are with him.
8. He learns to apologize
No one is perfect, and it is therefore safe for me to assume that we all make mistakes in relationships.
The hallmark of a successful relationship is not how perfect partners are.
Rather, it is how they never let their egos stop them from admitting that they are wrong.
If you are egoistical, a successful relationship may remain just a dream to you.
One of the major habits a man develops when he is in love is apologizing when he is wrong.
As a man in a relationship, knowing how to apologize when you are wrong is necessary.
And as one of my married friends usually says, you may also need to learn how to apologize when you are not wrong just to maintain peace.
This leads me to the final charming habit men develop when they are in love…
9. He learns how to compromise
Even in a relationship between very like-minded partners, there are times that there will be disagreements.
One of the major habits a man develops when he is in love is the habit of learning how to compromise.
He learns how to prioritize the peace and connection of the relationship over being right.
It’s okay to disagree in relationships but sometimes both partners need to find a common ground.
When a man is in love, he develops the habit of taking that step towards the common ground while expecting you to meet him halfway.
10. He becomes the defender of his love
There is something so cute about a man’s instinct to defend the lady he loves.
It is just so heartwarming to see a man standing up for the woman he loves.
While growing up, I watched caped superheroes flying to the rescue of a universe that was always in danger from one villain or the other, and I decided on my future career.
I wanted to be a full-time superhero.
Now that I am older, I realize that not all heroes wear capes and there is nothing more heroic than a man standing to defend the woman he loves.
While most men are protective of their female friends, this fierce urge to defend their love regardless of the situation is a charming habit that is borne of love.
11. He becomes more generous
There is no love without giving.
I haven’t seen any type of love that doesn’t give.
Familial love, romantic love…
They all involve giving.
However, when a man is truly in love with you, he becomes even more generous.
He is ready to give you almost anything if you say the word.
You must note that this generosity is not limited to money alone.
He is also ready to give his time, energy, and talent to help you.
It’s almost like he is saying, “All of me is yours for the taking.”
He just gives selflessly.
This isn’t a natural instinct for humans; hence, it is another habit a man develops when he is in love.
12. He becomes an expert surprise strategist
Have you ever had friends who hate doing spontaneous things?
They love to plan things ahead.
Many men are like that, especially in their normal life.
However, when a man is in love, he develops an affinity for the spontaneous.
He organizes spontaneous dates, spur-of-the-moment trips, and excellent surprises.
He loves to give you gifts and he would choose the most dramatic and surprising way to do this.
Ultimately, you can’t help but love love, can you?
There is something about it that makes even the most rigid person flexible.
When a man is in love, he develops a lot of habits that makes him a better person generally.