Not too long ago, one of my female cousins reached out to me.
She had this guy she was in a romantic ‘situation’ with.
I call it a romantic situation because, according to her, although he professed his love for and interest in her, he hasn’t officially asked her out.
Her greater worry is that his feelings for her appear to be fluctuating.
On some days, he’s all over her, while on other days, he acts like she doesn’t exist.
She told me that she really liked him because he fulfilled most of the criteria she had for a man.
She asked me for tips on how to steady his feelings for her.
She wants him to continuously ‘see’ her whenever he’s around and miss her when they’re not together.
According to her, that’d be a great start.
From there, he’ll start getting emotionally attached to her and eventually ask her out.
Love is beautiful, but sometimes, the journey is both thorny and funny.
I know that there are women who have men they want to set on the path of commitment to them, just like my cousin wanted with her man.
They want the man in their life to miss them, but they don’t know how to express their desire.
Sometimes, they don’t even need to do too much to achieve their aim.
However, one problem with trying to get a man to miss a woman is that there are no rules for it.
If you’re here for the same purpose, I must tell you that you won’t achieve it by hiding or suppressing your feelings or playing mind games with that man.
The secret lies in making every meeting with him memorable.
Regarding my cousin, I shared some practical tips with her, and I’m also going to do the same here.
Remember that every relationship is different, and you must exercise discretion when pursuing your goals.
Come with me as I share some helpful tips on how to be the woman he can’t stop missing.
How To Be The Woman He Can’t Stop Missing
1. Give him space
Everyone needs their space from time to time to clear their heads.
The saying that ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ comes into play here.
One way to be the woman he can’t stop missing is to give him space.
Men really love their space and tend to appreciate women who realize it and act accordingly.
I know that the temptation to always be around him will be there, but find a way to resist it and give him some space.
If you’re always in his face and his space, he will soon start feeling suffocated by you.
A man will not always tell you directly that he needs his space.
It’s very important that you learn how to read the room and act accordingly.
For instance, he had a busy day and wanted to relax by playing video games.
Rather than asking to play with him, you can encourage him to play alone and have his space.
You can ask him to enjoy himself with his games.
Let him know that you can always catch up with him some other time.
By doing so, you’re giving him the chance to long for you and actually miss you.
2. Be yourself around him
Another way a woman can register herself in a man’s subconscious is by being herself around him.
Ditch being pretentious and be real with him, sis.
The more someone pretends, the more likely it’ll be for them to slip up and let others see through their lies.
However, being your real, authentic self around him will set you apart from others.
For instance, instead of pretending to be confident and have it all together when he wants to introduce you to his friends, you can actually let him know that although you’re nervous, you’re still delighted to meet them.
You don’t need to always have your guard up around him.
Loosen up and genuinely enjoy every moment.
You can savor the taste of that cup of ice cream, sing along happily to that song, and cry while watching that emotional movie.
The secret lies in being your authentic self around him.
He’ll see why you’re different and will connect with you because of that.
He’ll also miss you because of your quality of being real.
3. Don’t act needy with him
If you want a man to miss you, you must not act needy with him.
You can start by not replying to his texts and returning his calls the moment you see them.
The idea is to avoid appearing needy while giving him a healthy dose of attention.
Delaying a bit before replying to his texts and returning his calls will let him know that your life doesn’t revolve around him.
He will realize that, although he is a priority in your life, he is not your only priority.
Don’t give him or anyone else the impression that your happiness depends on them.
Let him wait for your reply to his texts and anticipate your calls.
Most men love to chase the women they’re interested in.
Replying to his texts and returning his calls as soon as you see them will take away the thrill of the chase for him.
It’ll also look like you’re just sitting around and waiting for him to buzz you.
4. Be spontaneous sometimes
Just like variety, spontaneity is the spice of life.
One of the ways to be the woman he can’t stop missing is to be spontaneous sometimes.
Routine can be boring, so it’s important to switch things up from time to time.
Involving him in fun activities or surprising him with spontaneous things will definitely leave a good impression on him.
For instance, you can take him on an impromptu trip to see a waterfall.
You can organise a hiking trip with other friends in attendance.
It’ll provide the perfect opportunity to unwind and also spend time with friends.
He’ll thoroughly appreciate it.
Then, you can surprise him with a dinner date at that restaurant he’s been meaning to visit.
Taking him along on such fun, adventurous, and exciting experiences will create a good impression on him.
He’ll look back at those experiences when you’re not together and crave your company.
He’ll miss you and wish to spend more time with you.
5. Be mysterious
Having an air of mystery around you is one of the things people find interesting and fascinating.
If you want a man to miss you, resist the urge to put all your cards on the table.
You’ll be tempted to show him every aspect of your personality, perhaps to impress him, but don’t.
You can be an enigma to him while still building a connection with him.
Keeping some aspects of your personality from him will keep the excitement alive.
Knowing that you are holding back some parts of yourself from him will make him want to unravel you and get to know you better.
He’ll keep coming back to interact with you because of the air of mystery around you.
And when both of you are not together, he’ll miss you.
6. Have a life of your own
There are so many ladies whose lives revolve around their partners once they get into a relationship.
Such a lady will neglect her friends and other valuable connections in her life and spend all her time with her man.
It might appear cute at the beginning of the relationship, but there’s nothing good about not having a life of your own.
It’s important for you to have a life, be independent, have your friends, and be able to function well even if your man is not in the picture.
In addition, most normal men won’t be happy to have a partner who is excessively clingy and appears to not have a life outside them.
A good way to start is by being able to navigate your life by yourself.
Have a job or business that keeps you busy.
Spend quality time with your friends and family.
Give time to your hobbies and engage in other fun activities that’ll refresh both your mind and body.
When your man sees that enjoying life without necessarily needing him by your side is a part of you, it’ll make him miss you and want to be a part of your life.
It will also trigger a bit of jealousy in him, as he will realize that, apart from him, you have other people and things to focus on and give your time to.
He’ll see you as a mature and independent woman, and that’s the type of woman most men admire and need in their lives.