“Actions speak louder than words” – Mark Twain.
This statement by Mark Twain has never been truer when it comes to love and relationships.
It is generally easy to say “I love you” to someone when you really don’t mean it.
However, when you truly love someone, your words and actions are usually supposed to be a testament to the love you feel for them.
Men and women show love through their actions…
Especially men.
So, when I see ladies asking the age-old question, “What do men want?”
I always say, “Focus on the actions, and you will have your answers.”
Instead of second-guessing and overthinking, it will be great to know for sure what your man wants from the relationship.
Well, there are some things that guys only do when they want a future with you.
In this article, I have compiled a list of things men do only when they want a future with you.
8 Things Men Only Do When They Want A Future With You
1. He includes you in his future plans
I know it may seem repetitive, but when a man wants a future with you, he includes you in his plans.
By including you in his future plans, I am not by any chance referring to him planning to go on a date with you next week or planning to see a movie with you tomorrow.
I am speaking of something much deeper than all of these.
He will plan for months and even years into the future.
One special thing that wanting a future with someone you love does is that it makes you see the future more clearly.
So when he talks about his future dreams, does he mention you?
Does he tell you about his goals like he is still expecting you to be in his life?
When he discusses long-term plans with you, do they clearly involve the two of you?
If yes, it is a sign that he wants a future with you.
Guys can only include you in their future plans if they truly want a future with you.
Whether it is about a vacation he wants to take with you next year, or just sitting down and looking at pictures of houses to choose the ideal family house, it is a sign that he is thinking long-term.
However, talk is cheap.
If he isn’t just only talking about the future, but is also taking steps to weave you into his life, it is a sign that he genuinely wants a future with you.
You need to be sure he is not just shooting the breeze with you.
Consistent actions always back up genuine intentions.
The next actions will confirm if he truly wants a future with you…
Stay with me.
2. He seeks your opinion
A clear sign of a man who wants a future with you is the fact that he values your opinions.
From seeking your opinion in making the small daily decisions like where to meet for your next date to the major ones like career choices or relocation decisions.
This doesn’t make him indecisive.
It just shows how much he values your opinions.
When a man makes decisions especially life-changing decisions without asking for your opinion, it is a sign that he doesn’t consider you to be a major part of his life.
A man who wants a future with you shows that he values your opinions when he always seeks them even when making major decisions in his life.
It’s really that simple.
3. He makes sacrifices for you
In relationships, sacrifices are inevitable especially when it is a relationship between two people who love each other.
Men make sacrifices for the woman they want a future with.
They compromise and back down on a lot of things just to make her happy.
I remember the one time I was dating this lady and I had already started checking the prices of engagement rings…
I loved her so much that I made a lot of sacrifices for her.
I love watching football, but when I got serious with her, I would happily choose spending time with her over watching a World Cup final.
Well, we didn’t end up together because she felt I wasn’t sacrificing enough for her.
This is the mistake females sometimes make.
It’s not always about grand gestures like donating his kidney to her or taking a loan to buy a car for her.
It could be something as simple as compromising on a dinner choice, spending time with her instead of hanging out with friends, or even something as seemingly trivial as skipping the World Cup final just because you have a date with her.
When a man truly wants a future with you, he makes sacrifices without much hesitation.
Whether it is making time to be with you in his overwhelming schedule, or doing things he has never done before, the sacrifices indicate the value he has for the relationship and how he wants things to work even in the future.
However, you should note that the readiness to sacrifice in the relationship shouldn’t be one-sided.
You should also be ready to do the same for him.
4. He supports your dreams
One of the perks of love is having someone who is always in your corner.
You just know you have someone watching your back and ready to help you.
If a man wants a future with you, he will not just tell you, he will also show it by being your biggest cheerleader.
He will encourage you to pursue your dreams, be a shoulder for you to lean on when you are going through tough times, and celebrate your little wins like they are his.
He wants to be an integral part of your success story and so he encourages you to grow even while he grows alongside you.
5. He handles conflicts well
Conflict is a normal part of any relationship.
Even the most successful relationships experience conflicts from time to time.
And depending on how they are handled, they may be good for the relationship.
You can determine if your man sees a future with you from the way he handles conflicts.
Instead of storming off or ghosting you, a man who truly wants a future with you will remain calm, listen to your perspective, and find ways to work through the conflict without the relationship taking a hit.
A man who truly wants a future with you will handle conflicts with maturity which shows how much he cares for the relationship.
Even when you are wrong, he will approach matters constructively to ensure that a resolution is reached.
However, he is not perfect.
So, you shouldn’t expect him to do all the work.
Help him.
Meet him halfway.
Sometimes, be the first to take the step to resolving the conflict.
6. He communicates openly
One of the major ingredients of a successful relationship is open communication.
I know that many ladies think that guys have a penchant for avoiding difficult conversations.
However, when a man is truly interested in the future with you, he doesn’t avoid difficult conversations.
Whether it is about setting boundaries or resolving conflicts, he will express himself openly because he understands that hiding things only complicates the relationship.
Not only does he display a readiness to speak about his feelings, dreams, and goals, but he is also ready to listen to you actively.
He wants to know your feelings, opinions, and concerns because he wants to build a future with you, and to do that, he needs a clear idea of your expectations.
7. He is committed to the relationship
In our time, commitment is fast becoming a really rare commodity.
People have gotten so woke that it is now fashionable to have casual relationships here and there with no destination in sight.
However, when a man wants a future with you, he becomes that one person who stands out in a generation of people with a phobia of commitments.
He will not keep you guessing about his feelings or intentions.
He is not in the relationship to play games, and he makes it clear to you that he is in it for the long haul.
He tells you that he wants a future with you but beyond that, he also invests time and effort into the relationship.
His actions match his words and leave you feeling secure in the relationship.
Love is more than just that fluttering feeling in your belly that people ascribe to “butterflies in the belly.”
It is a commitment to choose one person, each day of your life.
8. He asks you to marry him
When a man asks you to marry him, it is a sign that he sees eternity in your eyes and just wants to be with you every day of his life.
If he truly sees the future with you, he won’t continue to just tell you or plan for the future.
He also pops the question…
That age-old question…
“Will you marry me?”
This is a declaration of how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, for better or worse.
It is the ultimate thing a man does to ensure that he gets the future he truly wants with you.
However, he doesn’t put a ring on your finger and stop at that.
He starts making evident plans towards getting married to you.
I had to clarify this one because some women have been trapped in stagnant relationships by men who have become lord of the rings (lol!) and would keep them in unending engagement.
Please shine your eyes! (Nigerian slang for “be street smart”}
In conclusion, love is not just a feeling.
It is a decision that’s made every day.
Whenever a man chooses to spend his future with you, he not only tells you.
He also does the things listed above.
And that’s when you know he genuinely wants a future with you.