You meet a girl and are cool with each other’s energy and vibes.
You start off as acquaintances, graduate to friends, and decide to go further by dating each other.
Just when you think the relationship is going to the next level, she drops a banger…
She wants you both to go back to being just friends.
No matter how hard you try, she isn’t forthcoming with any good reasons for her decision, but she’s firm about what she wants.
Worry less because you’re about to learn the possible reasons for her actions.
Enjoy the read!
“We Dated But Now She Just Wants To Be Friends” – 6 Possible Reasons
1. She’s seeing someone else
Like a marriage, a relationship is like a wrapped package.
You don’t know the contents until you unwrap (read as get into) it.
It’s possible to like someone from afar because of how you perceive them.
The truth is that no one ever went into a relationship with a complete understanding of their partner.
Each new day comes with a discovery.
In your case, perhaps she was catching feelings for you based on her perception of you from afar, but now that both of you have had close contact, she might have seen some parts of you that may be too much for her to handle.
She might have also found someone whose attributes match what she wants, and she’s drawn to him.
So, rather than break up with you because of it, she’ll choose to thread softly by asking to return to being friends with you.
2. She isn’t prepared to commit to you
Commitment in a relationship is a serious topic that shouldn’t be handled with kid’s gloves.
There are a lot of factors one should consider before taking the giant step of committing to one’s partner.
Your girl may suddenly want both of you to go back to being just friends because she’s not ready to be committed to you or anyone else.
It can be that she needs more time to go through her options before deciding.
Please respect her wishes.
You can only persuade someone who is ready to be committed to doing right by you.
What of someone who is not ready to be committed yet?
It’ll be like flogging a dead horse.
Don’t waste your time.
3. She hasn’t healed properly from past traumatic experiences
Your girl may have had really traumatic experiences in the past, and she’s yet to heal properly; move on and get over them completely.
Sometimes, albeit unconsciously, the bad things that happened to us in the past go a long way to shaping our present lives.
For instance, she may have been cheated on in the past.
Now, she can’t move past that horrible image in her head and enjoy the wholesomeness of a new relationship.
In this case, I’ll advise you to listen to her and go back to being friends with her.
As friends, you can try to help her heal, move on, and get over her past experiences.
Only then can you give having a relationship with her another shot?
4. Both of you are incompatible
If you and your girlfriend have different dreams, plans, goals, and ambitions, it can be why she wants to return to being friends.
Both of you have different trajectories in life, do not see eye-to-eye on important life issues, and do not attempt to meet each other anywhere in the middle.
This type of relationship calls for concern.
You should be worried equally, but if you see nothing wrong with that dynamic in your relationship, she sees everything wrong with it.
She’s concerned about being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t support her goals and pushes her to become a better person.
You’ll not thrive in such a relationship.
Please respect her wishes and go back to being friends with her.
It’s better for her to be alone and achieve her dreams than being with someone who belittles her efforts and tears down whatever progress she makes.
5. She’s not attracted to you physically
Another reason a girl will want you to go from dating back to being friends is that she is not attracted to you physically.
She doesn’t find you physically attractive.
Physical attraction between couples is just as important as every other determining factor in love and relationships.
Having even the tiniest spark of positive emotions for your partner would be best.
Sometimes, physical attraction comes first to only one partner and gradually starts growing on the other partner.
In some cases, however, it doesn’t grow in the second person, no matter how long and hard they try to feel the spark for their partner.
This can be your girl’s predicament.
Perhaps she has been with you all these while hoping that the physical attraction to you will grow on her.
However, all is to no avail, and she’s tired of waiting.
Another angle is that she suddenly stopped feeling physical attraction for you.
Maybe you used to do things, such as bathing properly, looking good, smell nice, etc., that helped sustain the physical attraction she felt for you.
Now that you’re in a relationship with her, you no longer see the need to do those things and maintain personal hygiene.
That isn’t good.
Relationship aside, you need to take good care of yourself.
Groom yourself properly.
Not only will it boost your self-confidence, but it’ll also attract the right people to you.
6. She friend-zoned you
Wait.
What?
Men and women alike try as much as they can to stay as far away as possible from this particular issue.
Nobody likes to be placed in the perpetual friend zone.
The worst thing about being put in the friend zone is that unless you find out and fight vehemently against it, you may remain in that zone for life.
But then, knowing that you’ve been placed in the friend zone is another discovery on its own.
How do you know what zone you are in a woman’s life?
Your ‘girl’ can suggest that you both go back to being friends because, mildly put, that’s what she only sees you as – a friend and nothing more.
Perhaps you’ve been dating yourself all this while.
Oops!
When she finds out that you’re serious about her and have been regarding your relations with her as dating, she won’t point it out to you directly to avoid hurting your feelings.
She’ll suggest that you both step back from ‘dating’ to being just friends so that she’ll figure some things out.
That way, no one is hurt, and your friendship with her is saved.
“We Dated But Now, She Just Wants To Be Friends”- What To Do
If a girl you dated suddenly wants to return to being friends with you, I don’t think you should take it personally.
Judging from what we’ve shared above, there are many factors that may have a hand in her decision.
Perhaps she doesn’t think you’re suitable for her, or she’s not yet ready to be committed to anyone.
Try to understand and respect her decision.
It shows that you’re mature.
If she says that she’s not ready or doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, do not try to pressure her.
Pressuring her to date you will mean that you’re settling for the barest minimum because if she’s not interested in you, she’ll behave and treat you anyhow in the relationship.
You’ll also have no choice but to endure because you brought it upon yourself.
Above all, keep your options open.
A girl’s rejection is not the end of the world.
Keep moving; there are other girls out there who possess everything you need in a woman and are interested in dating you.
So, why pass up the opportunity by remaining stuck on one girl?
Come on!
Move on.
The future has bigger, better, and brighter prospects for you.
I hope that this article has been able to convey the reasons a girl who you dated will suddenly want to go back to being friends.
Accept it in good faith and move on.
Please don’t stress yourself over it.
What’s yours will surely come to you.
Cheers!