Marriage is supposed to be an amazing union between couples who love and adore each other.
Many marriages start this way and slowly degenerate into a routine when the couple becomes comfortable.
This steady decline of a passionate relationship into a routine affair is almost always accompanied by signs of being taken for granted in the relationship.
There are several signs that your partner takes you for granted in your marriage.
They may include a lack of affection, emotional distance, lack of quality time, and a propensity to not pay attention to you when you speak.
When you feel taken for granted in your relationship, it makes you feel undervalued and unappreciated.
You may be driven to wonder how a relationship that started with so much passion between two people who loved each other could have ended up this way.
Many times, women have been on the receiving end of this sad turn of events in a good relationship, and it is not uncommon to hear them wonder aloud, ‘Why does my husband treat me this way?’
If you are caught in this sad situation, and this question has been on your mind, I hope that you will get answers from this article as we explore the various reasons behind husbands taking their wives for granted;
“Why Does My Husband Take Me For Granted?”- 5 Reasons
1. Lack of communication
Every successful relationship is built on the foundation of effective communication; when it is lacking, the relationship collapses.
If you are in this situation, you may need to objectively view of how communication has been between you and your husband.
Poor, right?
This simply implies that you can’t feel appreciated, valued, or loved in a relationship suffering from a communication breakdown.
Couples are encouraged to communicate effectively, but many may not know what this entails.
Effective communication entails listening more than talking and also expressing your feelings and expectations in positively calm tones.
Sometimes, when you feel that you are being taken for granted, it may not be intentional on your husband’s part.
He may not fully understand the extent of your feelings, needs, and expectations for the marriage.
You may speak different love languages, which may cause a lot of misunderstanding between you.
For example, he might express love through acts of service or quality time, while you might prefer words of affirmation.
This difference may lead to misunderstanding.
This is why effective communication should be the number one tool in your marriage toolkit.
2. Complacency
One of the greatest enemies of your marriage is complacency.
The reason why it is so dangerous is because it can always disguise as you simply being comfortable with your wife.
Let’s get this: there is a thin line between being comfortable and complacent.
When couples allow their relationship to fall into a routine because they are “comfortable” with each other, other problems arise.
This is one of the principal causes of feeling like your husband takes you for granted.
You feel this way because those appreciative gestures always forthcoming from your husband are now so scarce.
You feel this way because your marriage seems to lack the spontaneity it used to have in the past.
You feel this way because you no longer have date nights with your husband.
There are fewer strolls in the park because he prefers staying out with the guys rather than walking with you.
There are fewer movie nights because he prefers falling asleep while watching CNN to seeing a movie with you.
Sometimes, it is not like he prefers doing those things.
Sometimes, it is just that the relationship has lost that spark, and he is too “comfortable” to try spontaneity again.
Either way, you feel taken for granted by your husband because he has let complacency take hold of your marriage.
3. Stress
One of the downsides to adulthood is the amount of responsibility it places on our shoulders.
Marriage adds even more responsibility, and it takes a lot of strength to keep up with everything in our lives.
Stress from work, financial concerns, or health issues can impact your relationship with your husband.
If your husband seems to have inherited additional responsibilities from work or is probably battling health issues, it could be why he seems to take you for granted.
These responsibilities have a way of taking people’s time and giving them little room for expressing appreciation.
This may be the reason your husband takes you for granted.
4. Unresolved conflicts
Grudges should be avoided in relationships.
If they are not, they can destroy the peace of your home.
In the same way that mutiny is encouraged by grudges, grudges could make a husband take his wife for granted.
When conflicts are not settled the right way, they can cause resentment and grudges.
Over time, these grudges may define how your husband interacts with you.
If you feel that your husband takes you for granted, you may need to introspect deeply within yourself to discover cases of unresolved conflicts between the two of you.
There is an unspoken rule concerning conflicts in marriage…
“Never sweep unresolved issues under the carpet. They may be gone from sight but never from heart, and they turn up at the worst possible moments to create even messier conflicts”- My humble self!
Apart from the deeply profound quote I just conjured up, never forget that resolving conflicts in relationships peacefully is the best way.
Peace has never caused trouble for anyone I have ever met.
5. He doesn’t respect you
Sometimes, it is just possible that the worst-case scenario is the correct scenario.
It doesn’t make me any happier to introduce this, but it could be why your husband takes you for granted.
Relationships are meant to be built on love, trust, and respect; when any of these are lacking, the relationship is on the verge of collapse.
When your husband doesn’t respect you, he will take you for granted.
You cannot appreciate a person you don’t value; if this is the case, many of his actions will have shown you he doesn’t respect you.
You may wonder why he doesn’t seem to respect you.
There are many reasons he may not respect you.
Some men have this terrible upbringing that makes them treat females like they don’t deserve respect.
Such men will take their wives for granted in marriage.
It may also be because of something you did in the past.
You may have done something that made him lose respect for you.
Or he may just be one of those who never respect ladies.
Whatever the case, it may be why your husband takes you for granted.
Final Words
A marriage is a union between couples; no one should be taken for granted for it to work.
If your husband takes you for granted, I hope the reasons above help you understand why he does it.
By addressing the potential underlying causes and implementing healthy communication and relationship-building strategies, you can work with your husband to improve the strength of the relationship.
Never forget your go-to tools for solving this situation should be effective communication, spending quality time together, and ensuring that you develop the habit of appreciating each other.
A healthy marriage requires effort from both partners.
Never forget this!