Marriage is a sacred institution, and the alarming rate of divorce in our world today doesn’t change that.
Marriage is full of love, laughs, and a few life lessons along the way.
But there’s a part of it that we don’t often talk about: how a married man should talk with other women.
You see, words are powerful, and the things we say can make a world of difference.
They can bring smiles, strengthen friendships, and build trust.
But, used in the wrong way, they can also cause confusion and hurt feelings.
I’ll be sharing with you some of the things a married man should probably never say to another woman.
This will help keep your marriage solid and avoids those “oops” moments.
If you’re a married man trying to stay on the right path, a wife looking for some tips, or anyone interested in understanding better relationship rules, this one’s for you.
9 Things a Married Man Should Never Say to Another Woman
1. “My wife doesn’t understand me.”
Sure, we all have those moments when it seems like our spouse is from another planet and just doesn’t “get” us.
And that’s fine, right?
Because no two people are ever going to understand each other completely, and that’s part of what makes marriage fun.
My husband doesn’t always get me.
However, the trouble starts when you express this frustration to another woman.
It’s like saying, “Hey, my wife doesn’t understand me. Could you do a better job?”
Bro, at its core, this statement is a veiled appeal for sympathy or connection, and that’s not cool.
Do you know the problem with saying, “My wife doesn’t understand me,” to another woman?
One, it unfairly paints your wife in a negative light.
She’s not there to defend herself or provide her side of the story.
Two, it’s also a bit of a slap in the face to your vows—those promises you made to stick together through thick and thin, in understanding and misunderstanding.
And above all, such a statement might spark unwanted speculation or attraction.
The other woman may interpret this as an invitation to step into a role that she has no business occupying.
If you feel your wife doesn’t understand you, talk to her.
She’s the one you are married to.
Because how would you feel if the roles were reversed?
What if your wife was telling another man that you didn’t understand her?
Even if said in a moment of frustration, it would still sting, wouldn’t it?
It’s always a good idea to apply the golden rule: treat others how you’d like to be treated.
2. “I wish my wife was more like you.”
While you might see this as a simple comment about someone’s characteristics, it’s much more than that.
You are implying that your wife doesn’t measure up to the other woman’s standards.
Expressing a desire for your wife to be like another woman undermines the individuality of your spouse and can lead the other woman to believe there’s a possibility of more than friendship.
You will always see women who have qualities you admire that your wife might not have, but your wife is unique, and her strengths should be appreciated.
3. “Don’t tell my wife we spoke.”
Transparency is key in any relationship, especially in a marriage.
Asking another woman to keep your conversation a secret from your wife sends the message that you don’t trust her or that there are things you want to hide from her.
While it’s tempting to talk about personal matters with someone outside of your marriage, doing so sets a precedent for dishonesty and mistrust.
If there’s something you feel the need to hide from your spouse, it’s probably best not to say or do it in the first place.
4. “I’m unhappy in my marriage.”