Not every relationship will lead to marriage.
I think we all accept that fact, well, except when we’re the ones wearing the shoes.
There’s never an easy way around relationship breakups. Still, it’ll be easier to swallow if one realizes early enough when a relationship is going nowhere and calls it off as soon as possible.
The signs your relationship will never lead to marriage are always there but can go unnoticed because one is blinded by the feelings one has for one’s partner.
No matter how much emotion one has invested in a relationship or how passionate one feels towards one’s partner, it’s always good to pay attention to one’s partner’s attitude.
No one wants to intentionally break their own hearts by being with someone and expecting from them something that can never be a reality.
Stay with me as I talk about the signs your relationship will never lead to marriage.
7 Signs Your Relationship Will Never Lead To Marriage
1. You or your partner say it openly
I think that one of the clearest signs your relationship will never lead to marriage is that one of the people in the relationship talks about it openly.
Perhaps they say that they’re not interested in getting married or simply have no plans to get hitched to anyone.
Some may even say that they want to get married eventually but not to their current partner.
I heard the story of a young lady who was in a relationship with a man.
He came home one day to find that she had tidied his house, washed his clothes, and made him a pot of delicious food.
After eating to his fill, the only thing he had to say was, “Baby, the person who will marry you will enjoy well o.”
Can you imagine?
The guy in question had already made it known that he was not interested in settling down with the lady.
She didn’t need any other sign for her to move on with her life because the relationship was obviously leading to nowhere.
2. Your relationship lacks potentials
If your relationship lacks potential, it’s one of the signs your relationship will never lead to marriage.
What I mean by a relationship lacking potentials is that the relationship doesn’t have what it takes to be more in the future.
The individuals involved probably see themselves as just friends and don’t envisage them being anything more than that, especially when it pertains to being intimate sexually.
Relationships like that exist and are a good example of relationships that will never lead to marriage.
3. Misaligned priorities and goals
One of the signs your relationship will never lead to marriage is that the couple has misaligned goals and priorities.
They’re not in agreement when it comes to their plans for the future.
They both have different priorities and goals that don’t seem to meet anywhere.
For instance, one person may not want to have children at all, while the other sees themselves having children in the long run.
One may see marriage for what it truly is—a sacred institution that is a covenant between two people.
On the other hand, one’s partner may think that marriage exists just to fulfil all righteousness and might refer to it as a mere agreement written and signed on paper.
Also, the two individuals might not see eye to eye when it comes to career plans.
The list is endless.
All these instances are little but important details about life that when put together, forms the backbone of every marriage and family.
A couple should ideally be in agreement over MOST of their goals and priorities.
If not, they’ll keep being at loggerheads over the slightest things, and that’s not what a healthy relationship is all about.
In addition, such a relationship where they both seem to be going in parallel directions will likely never lead to marriage.
4. Inability to find common ground often
A relationship in which the couple usually don’t see eye to eye on almost every topic and as a result, are mostly at loggerheads will likely not make significant progress if things don’t change for better.
They’re constantly embroiled in conflict over one thing or the other.
Simply put, the times they’re fighting far surpasses the happy moments in the relationship.
In addition, there is a pile-up of unresolved conflicts between them.
It’s more like they can’t seem to find a common ground.
Such a relationship will likely not lead to marriage.
5. Unwillingness to compromise
One of the key ingredients in every thriving relationship is compromise.
For a relationship to be healthy and successful, a couple should be willing to make sacrifices and meet each other in the middle.
However, if one or both of them are set in their ways and are unwilling to compromise or bend for the greater good of the relationship, it’s a red flag that shouldn’t be ignored.
If they can be honest with each other, such a relationship has no future, and they have no business taking it to the next level (marriage).
6. Not prioritizing your partner
One of my female friends turned down a marriage proposal from her boyfriend.
Later, she called me to explain the details and tell me exactly why she did what she did.
It happened that her then-boyfriend didn’t think that anything should change for a person who is in a relationship or marriage.
He wanted to keep living with the same freedom he did when he was single in his relationship.
He was all about his job, hanging out with the boys, and spending time alone.
According to my friend, anything about their relationship always came second to him.
He never prioritized her or made her feel important enough in the relationship.
She said that, given his behavior in the relationship, she was even surprised that he thought of getting married because he didn’t have what it took to make a good husband.
I was happy that she saw all of that and wasn’t moved by the pressure of the moment of his proposal to say yes.
In marriage, your spouse should be your top priority.
If you’re not ready for that or don’t feel like they deserve to take the top spot in your life, then you have no business with getting married to them in the first place.
7. Over-dependency on other people
When one or both individuals in a relationship are overly dependent on the significant figures in their lives despite being full-grown adults, it’s one of the signs your relationship will never lead to marriage.
They’re always seeking the opinions of their parents and other respected people in their lives for every step and decision they want to make.
It screams immaturity, not having a mind of one’s own, and definitely points out one’s inability to make decisions on their own.
A full-grown adult is meant to have a mind of their own and be able to make decisions without the influence of anyone.
This doesn’t mean they cannot receive counsel from parents and authority figures.
They should, however, have the mental capacity to distinguish right from wrong and act accordingly.
If it is a missing trait in one or both individuals in a relationship, the possibility of that relationship making it to the stage of marriage is very slim.