When a man feels safe with a woman, several things must’ve brought him to that point.
He has also become emotionally attached to her.
However, the journey to getting emotionally attached or feeling safe with another person isn’t easy.
It’s usually a long one, especially for men.
Normally, secure attachment is formed when someone starts getting comfortable with another and is confident that they can meet their needs.
Secure attachment is one of the types of emotional attachment that develops easily.
If a man eventually becomes emotionally attached to a woman and feels safe with her, he might not know how to express his feelings to her.
Most of the time, it takes being attentive and observant on the woman’s part to know that a man feels safe with her.
Some signs let a woman know that she’s the woman he feels safe with, and we’ll be looking at some of them in this article.
9 Signs You’re The Woman He Feels Safe With
1. He is himself around you
A man who feels safe with you will be his authentic self with you.
There’ll be no pretense of any form from his end.
What you see is what you get, and it’s because he has gotten so comfortable with you.
I remember the early stages of my relationship with my then-boyfriend, now husband.
He always acted guarded around me, more like he was very self-conscious whenever we were together.
Although I wasn’t entirely free with him then, his was more pronounced.
I guess he was trying to prevent doing anything that I’ll tag as ‘misbehavior,’ and he didn’t want to annoy or hurt me in any way.
But as we got along and became comfortable with each other, we both let our guards down.
He started expressing himself freely.
Now, he doesn’t pretend to be with me because we understand ourselves to a great extent now.
That’s what the feeling of safety looks like.
2. He likes to be close to you physically
One of the signs you’re the woman he feels safe with is that he likes to be close to you physically.
It is one of the first and easiest ways for a woman to know that a man feels safe with her.
Men usually start getting physically close to any woman they feel comfortable with.
Such a woman will notice a different type of tenderness in the man’s actions towards her.
He’ll want to initiate anything that’ll put them in physical proximity to each other.
For instance, he gives her a big, warm hug at the end of a hectic day, walks her to her car or house door after every hangout, or offers to hold her hand when they’re both taking a stroll.
So, if he’s acting all feely-touchy with you, then he probably feels safe with you.
He hugs you from behind, makes sure your bodies touch you whenever he passes you, and initiates other gestures that involve physical contact.
Now, I am not saying a man initiating sex at the relationship level means he feels safe with you.
If so, he may just be about to prey on you.
I mean physical contact that communicates care and comfort, like hugs or hand-holding.
3. He is vulnerable with you
One of the signs you’re the woman he feels safe with is that he is vulnerable with you.
Many men hide their issues, brood in silence, and cry in secret because the society has conditioned them not to express their feelings.
They’ve been fed the wrong notion that expressing feelings is a sign of weakness in men.
So, most of them tend to internalize their struggles and pains and refuse to share and possibly get help from their loved ones.
However, when a man trusts and feels safe with you, he won’t be scared to be vulnerable with you because he knows that you won’t judge him.
He’ll make you his confidant and shoulder to lean on whenever he feels burdened.
4. He is kind to you
As a woman who is not sure of her place in a man’s life, check how he treats you.
Does he treat you with kindness?
Yes?
Then, he probably feels safe with you.
I’m not ruling out the possibility that a man can treat you with kindness because he is naturally kind.
However, one of the ways a man shows that he’s comfortable with someone is by acting kindly towards them.
If he’s kind naturally, the kindness he shows you will be preferential.
For instance, he’ll take good care of you when you are not feeling well.
He doesn’t hesitate to help you in whatever capacity he can.
He might even clear his schedule to make time for you.
He’ll also get you thoughtful gifts.
5. He’s willing to be open to you
When a man starts feeling safe with a woman, one of the obvious ways it’ll show is that he’ll be willing to be open to her.
Such a man will not hesitate to share things about his work, business, and family with her.
He’s doing it because he has gotten comfortable with her and wants to include her in his life.
He feels that she’s special to him and will be around for a long time.
So, he’ll want her to get familiar and involved with his affairs.
That way, she’ll no longer be a stranger.
He’ll introduce her to his family members and often talk about them whenever he’s with her.
Similarly, he might invite her to his business or workplace and introduce her to his workers or colleagues.
He’ll also occasionally discuss things related to work or business with her to get her opinion.
While at it, she’s getting more acquainted with his family, work, or business life.
6. He believes you easily
In the face of side talks or rumors, a man who feels safe with you believes and defends you.
The feeling of being safe and comfortable with a person makes us naturally let our guard down around them.
So, whenever there’s a contrary view or opinion about you, he’ll defend you even without hearing your own side of the story.
And when he does hear what you have to say, he believes you easily.
He trusts you and, as a result, believes and defends you.
7. He’s happy about your successes
A man who feels safe with a woman will definitely be happy about her successes.
He’ll feel no pressure to match up with her achievements, nor will he be intimidated by her success.
It’s just undiluted excitement and happiness for her about what she has achieved.
If he’s the ‘extra’ kind of guy, he’ll take his happiness a step further by celebrating her success.
For example, he might take her out for lunch or dinner to celebrate the good news.
He might also buy her a gift to congratulate her for achieving such a feat.
It can also be in his simple gestures and body language, such as smiling from ear to ear or beaming with pride when he hears the news.
The bottom line is that he’s genuinely happy about her success, which, in my opinion, is one of the beautiful signs that you’re the woman he feels safe with.
It shows that he’s in full support of her and invested in her success and growth.
8. He makes you one of his priorities
A man who feels comfortable with you will make you one of his priorities.
You’re not just a random woman to him.
You’re special, and he’ll treat you as such.
You’ll never be in doubt of your position in his life.
He gets worried when you’re not happy or well and will do his best to be there for you whenever you need him.
He’ll constantly show up with words of advice, prayers, and encouragement for you.
You can confide in him as well, and be rest assured that he can be your shoulder to lean on.
In all his actions, you’ll never be in doubt of the fact that you are one of his priorities.
9. He’s not afraid to show you off
If he’s not scared of showing you off, it’s one of the signs you’re the woman he feels safe with.
If you’ve read to this point, you have seen the preceding points about trust, vulnerability, kindness, and every other attribute that shows he feels safe with you.
Any man who shows some or all of the aforementioned attributes will not be afraid to show you off.
He is proud to let the world know that you are his woman.
Because he trusts that you won’t do him dirty and serve him cold ‘breakfast,’ he shows you off at every given opportunity.
He tells the world about you because he loves and cares about you and is proud of you.