It’s normal for couples to be very attracted to each other in the early stages of their marriages.
Sometimes, it looks like they can’t do without each other as they grow in love and share beautiful memories.
But as time goes on, issues that might make them drift apart will arise, and they’ll start acting differently from the normal they were used to.
To bring it home, as your marriage grows older, you might have problems that’ll make your husband start acting differently.
Of course, you’ll also start seeing him in a different light.
But his change in behavior doesn’t mean that he hates you.
Hate is actually a very strong word.
Let’s just say that he probably resents you due to certain things that happened between both of you in the course of the marriage.
But in this case, he’s trying not to be obvious about it.
However, feelings, especially negative ones as this, cannot be hidden completely, no matter how hard you try.
This article will be dealing with subtle signs your husband may be resentful of you.
Check out these signs, especially if you suspect that he resents you but have no confirmation.
Even if you have no suspicions, I’ll advise you to read to the end.
It’ll also help you discern if resentment wants to creep into your marriage.
That way, you’ll address it in its early stages.
Without further ado, let’s get started.
8 Subtle Signs Your Husband May Be Resentful Of You
1. He starts keeping secrets
One of the things that make a marriage healthy, strong, and successful is the ability of both parties to be transparent with each other in their dealings.
When your husband starts keeping secrets, it’s enough for you to raise your eyebrows.
For instance, he changes his phone passwords so that you can no longer have access to his phone and other important aspects of his life.
Most of the time, it’s not about work or being confidential, as he might try to cover it up.
It’s rare to find someone who is married to a person whom they don’t trust.
So, the issue of trust is out of the equation.
It might be coming from a place of resentment.
If he resents you, he’ll want to keep things about himself away from you, not because he doesn’t trust you, but because he wants you to have a limited amount of information about him.
It’s one of the subtle signs your husband may be resentful of you.
2. He constantly questions your decisions
One of the subtle signs your husband may be resentful of you is that he constantly questions your decisions.
You’ll notice that recently, your husband started questioning your decisions, unlike before when he trusted your judgment.
These days, he has to weigh in and double-check on whatever you decide before giving it the green light.
You might attribute it to him being meticulous and not wanting anything to go wrong.
If you’re right, then it has to happen only in certain peculiar cases.
But if it’s happening constantly, it’s a subtle sign that he probably resents you.
He simply doesn’t want you to have the final say in making decisions.
He wants you to feel inadequate and incapable of making good decisions.
He resents you and will apply whatever techniques he has at his disposal to erode your self-esteem.
3. He doesn’t let you take part in the decision-making of the family
In line with point 2 above, another subtle sign your husband may be resentful of you is that he doesn’t let you take part in the decision-making of the family.
You’ll notice it, especially in the emotional and financial aspects of the home.
You need each other to survive, work through life, and grow.
So, there’s a problem if he wants to make all the decisions by himself without involving you or his spouse.
He probably resents you and doesn’t want to depend on you or doesn’t want to make it look like he’s depending on you for emotional and financial support.
It shows that his resentment for you really runs so deeply.
4. He doesn’t defend you
Whenever the occasion presents itself for him to defend you, he doesn’t.
You’ll even find him standing up for the other party in the conflict.
There’s a trend you’ll notice with him whenever you have problems with anyone.
His default belief will be that you are the one who is at fault.
Even without hearing from you or hearing the full story, he’ll take sides with the other party and heap all the blame on you.
He might even lash out at you, humiliate you, and blame you right there in public.
He’s not doing it to appear impartial.
His not defending you is coming from a place of resentment for you.
5. He never admits that he’s wrong
One subtle sign that your husband may resent you is that he never admits he’s wrong.
When it comes to you, your husband never admits that he’s wrong.
Even when it’s glaring, and there is enough evidence stacked up to prove that he is wrong and caused the problem between the two of you, he’ll refuse to take responsibility for his actions.
He’ll refuse to own up and do right by you and your marriage.
Even if all it’ll take him to make things right and improve the relationship between both of you is a simple, heartfelt apology, he’ll blatantly refuse to do it.
He might even dare the worst to happen.
It’s a sign that he may be resentful of you.
6. He picks on your appearance
If your husband doesn’t miss any opportunity to talk down on your dressing and general appearance despite you looking good, it’s a sign of an underlying problem with him.
By general standards, you dress well, and your appearance is in good taste.
But somehow, he just doesn’t like to see you look attractive and appealing.
I mean, which husband doesn’t want his wife to always come correct with her appearance?
Definitely, a husband who has something against his wife.
It’s one of the subtle signs your husband may be resentful of you.
7. He doesn’t include you in his plans
One of the subtle signs your husband may be resentful of you is that he doesn’t include you in his plans.
It shows that whatever problem he has with you is deeply rooted.
His not including you in his plans shows that he probably doesn’t want to have anything to do with you at that point or even outside.
He might not want people to know that both of you know each other; talk more of the fact that you are married.
He wants to distance himself from you as much as he can.
8. He keeps bringing up past issues
He has simply refused to let sleeping dogs lie.
Whenever there’s a fresh issue between both of you, he’s quick to abandon the issue at hand to dig up some old issues that may or may not be related to what’s on ground.
It’s a clear indication that he’s still holding on to some grudges from the past, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve trashed it and moved on from it.
He clearly hasn’t, which is why he keeps digging them up.
He probably holds some kind of resentment against you for those issues, and it poses a potential danger to him and your marriage.
It’s clouding his sense of judgment and is preventing him from moving on with his life and making significant progress with you in your marriage.
Everything that is written, is the truth. Through out the years I’ve been asking my husband if he resents me, and he always says no. But this is how he treats me. He distanced himself onto the point of having an affair and before that he was talking to younger girls. I refer to them as little girls. Cause I know I AM A WOMAN!