If we’re being honest, a man can’t just wake up one morning and suddenly start feeling like his wife is his biggest mistake.
According to Scientists, ‘Action and reaction are equal and opposite.’
What I’m trying to say is that there might have been actions by a woman that made her husband start feeling that way about her.
While it’s true that I may not know the back story of what happened between you and your husband, you might not also know exactly what your husband is feeling as an aftermath of your actions.
Let’s say you cheated on him, told him a grave lie, or did something terrible that he can’t seem to let go of.
You might be seeing his recent actions as signs that he’s still angry with you and hasn’t forgiven you yet, but he might be feeling more than just anger toward you.
He may actually be beating himself up for getting married to you as he feels like you’re his biggest mistake.
Shocking, right?
It’s important that you know exactly what your husband is feeling for you at every point, whether he says it out or not.
Stay with me as I talk about the signs your husband feels like you’re his biggest mistake.
It’ll help you know how best to approach him and the next step you’ll take in your marriage.
9 Signs Your Husband Feels Like You’re His Biggest Mistake
1. He doesn’t see you as his source of comfort
One of the signs your husband feels like you’re his biggest mistake is that he doesn’t see you as a source of comfort to himself.
You’ll notice that he’s hostile towards you, albeit subtly.
He doesn’t see you as a friend and doesn’t treat you like one, either.
Additionally, he doesn’t confide in you, share his day with you, discuss his feelings, ask for your advice, talk about his goals and dreams, or reveal his fears and worries.
He also doesn’t plan fun activities that you can do together as a couple.
It shows that he has a persistent, unresolved conflict with you.
2. He shies away from conflict resolution
Marriage is a union between two individuals from different backgrounds, and therefore, conflict is inevitable at times.
It’s safe to consider conflict as a healthy part of marriage because it shows that, although the couple disagrees with each other on certain things, they’re still willing to discuss their differences, consider each other’s perspectives, find a middle ground, and not let their differing opinions come between them for long.
In a healthy marriage, couples are eager for conflict resolution.
However, a man who feels like his wife is his biggest mistake will shy away from conflict resolution.
He already regrets getting married to her, bears some resentment towards her, and is ultimately no longer interested in her.
He doesn’t mind using anything as an excuse to stay disconnected from her.
So, he’ll hold onto any conflict between them, no matter how small or big it may be, and refuse to iron things out with her.
3. He criticizes you constantly
I know that we all get cranky from time to time, and as a result, we lash out at or criticize our loved ones.
However, if a man can’t seem to survive a day without criticizing his wife negatively, it’s a pointer to an underlying issue that is bothering him.
It seems like his eyes are trained on her at all times, following her every move, and he is ever ready to lash out at her.
Constructive criticism is a good type of criticism and doesn’t come regularly.
However, when criticism becomes constant, it’ll definitely turn negative, which is a bad sign in a marriage.
At this point, such a man needs to really check if his frustration is coming from a lineup of stressful and busy days at work or if he has a personal grouse against his wife.
He might be acting in that way towards her because he feels like she’s his biggest mistake.
4. Your connection is almost nonexistent
In a marriage where the man feels like his wife is his biggest mistake, the connection between the couple will be nonexistent.
Such a man will generally feel numb around his wife.
They might actively team up to be good parents to their children and maintain a healthy home front, but the relationship between both of them will be nothing to write home about.
Such a man will be running on autopilot whenever he’s with his wife.
They’ll live more like roommates and not do all the things couples usually do to bond with each other, which include being vulnerable with each other, sharing feelings, having fun and laughter, being friends with each other, and being kind to each other, among others.
5. He treats you with contempt
Another sign that a man feels like his wife is his biggest mistake is that he treats her with contempt.
He’s always sarcastic with his words to her.
I know that a healthy dose of sarcasm isn’t bad.
In fact, it’s used to spice things up in a relationship from time to time.
However, too much of anything is bad, and sarcasm is not exempt from this rule.
If a man consistently finds a way to be sarcastic towards his wife, it may be a sign of deep-seated regret and unhappiness within him.
In addition to being sarcastic, he’ll roll his eyes whenever she’s speaking to the extent that his eyes will threaten to go to the back of his head.
There’s nothing gentlemanly about this attitude, and it’s definitely not the best way a man should treat his wife.
However, he already treats her with contempt, which may be a result of her actions.
Perhaps she kept a horrible secret from him which he later found out, or she cheated on him.
Her actions makes him feel like she’s his biggest mistake and makes him regret getting married to her.
That explains why he treats her with contempt.
6. He works around instead of with you
A man who sees his wife as his biggest mistake will simply do his own thing and live his life exactly as he wants, without considering his wife or her feelings.
He cares less about what she prefers or wants.
For instance, he won’t ask for her consent before going grocery shopping for the house.
While at it, he’ll buy things in large quantities and not take his wife’s preferred brand choices into consideration.
She or some of the kids might have allergies that she prevents by sticking to a particular brand.
However, in a bid to spite her, he’ll opt for a different brand, even if he knows the reason she chose the other one.
It’s also not unusual for him to make plans without checking in with her to see if it’s convenient for her.
To him, he even hopes she won’t be able to make it so that he’ll be saved from the agony of having to spend time with her.
7. He avoids you
A man who feels like his wife is his biggest mistake will avoid her.
It’s a no-brainer.
He’ll spend longer hours than normal in the office or at any other place to reduce the amount of time he has to spend at home with his wife.
He can even wait until she’s in bed before he gets home to avoid any form of interaction with her.
In addition, he’ll be very happy whenever she’s not around because he gets to have the house to himself without feeling anger and bitterness rising like bile in his gut.
8. He has only negative things to say about you
When your husband has only negative things to say about you, it’s one of the clear signs your husband feels like you’re his biggest mistake.
Nothing better explains why a man will have nothing good to say about his wife.
Because he sees you as his biggest mistake, he feels that you’re too flawed to be happy or deserve any good thing.
It’ll be evident in the way he talks about you, especially when it comes to your love story.
He’ll conveniently forget all the good times you both shared and instead focus on your flaws and how he ignored the red flags to be with you.
The truth is that he sees you as his biggest mistake and regrets getting married to you.
9. He stops arguing with you
In line with conflict resolution, a man who cares about you and the marriage will argue and fight with you over certain things.
However, a sign that the relationship is on the brink of collapse is that the arguments and fights stop in the marriage.
You’ll notice that your husband stops arguing with you, no matter what you do or how hard you try to rope him into a fight or an argument.
Rather, he’ll leave the house for you and come back when flared tempers are calm because he feels like you’re his biggest mistake; he doesn’t believe in the marriage.
So, he sees investing his time, energy, and emotions in issues concerning the marriage as a waste of resources.