When a man stops desiring you, there’ll be signs.
Failure to recognize and identify the signs and act accordingly will put you in situations you’d rather not be in.
Just in case you don’t know the tricks these men employ when they get bored or lose interest in a woman, I’ve got you.
The signs come in different shapes and forms depending on the man and the severity of the situation.
19 Tricky Things Men Do When They No Longer Want You
1. Increased time apart
A man who wants you will naturally want to spend much time with you, having fun, bonding, and creating memories.
So, a direct and easy way to diagnose that a man no longer wants you is a drastic increase in your time apart.
You’ll observe that he no longer wants to spend time with you; he’d rather be somewhere else or with someone else.
Sometimes, you’ll just see the signs, but in extreme cases, he might even verbally suggest that you spend less time together.
“Maybe we should spend more time working on our personal lives and other aspects of our lives and reduce the time we spend together?”
I’ll save you the stress and tell you what he means; “I’m not feeling you like that anymore.”
2. Ignore you
When men no longer want you, ignoring you is one of the most likely things they’ll do.
A lot of men do this, and it’s unmistakable when it happens.
Their communication goes down, and even when you try to initiate it, they don’t respond.
You start getting one-word or short answers to your texts or questions; they now leave you on read or take ages to respond.
When you’re talking to him, it’s almost as though you’re talking to yourself.
3. Act like you’re a burden
Do you know how an umbrella can be a cherished possession when it’s raining, but that same umbrella can quickly become an unnecessary load that you want to get rid of when the weather is perfect?
That’s how some men feel about a woman when they no longer want her.
She becomes like unwanted luggage.
They treat her with contempt and disdain, making her see she’s no longer needed there.
I’ll give you some advice for free: when a man acts like you’re a nuisance, don’t wait until the disrespect becomes too evident.
Like someone once humorously said, “If you see the signs and you don’t leave, very soon, you’ll see wonders.”
4. They tell you
If a man tells you he no longer wants you, please believe him.
It’s one of the things they do when their interest in a woman has waned.
Although it can be harsh and brutal, I consider such men better people than other men who’ll start acting up.
Sometimes, men are honest enough to tell a woman they no longer want them.
5. They stop showing affection
When a man stops wanting a woman, he withdraws affection from her.
The hugs, kisses, warmth, gifts, and sweet words become scarce.
A man who used to be all over you suddenly becomes one who can’t stand your presence or closeness.
The lack of affection can mean many things, but one of the most likely ones is that he no longer wants the woman.
6. They cheat on you
One of the ways a man can let a woman know that she has overstayed her welcome in his life is by stepping out on her.
He can do so by flirting with others, showing interest in dating again, or outright cheating.
If a man still desires the woman he’s with, he wouldn’t be stepping out on her.
His cheating or talking about other women suggests that his heart is set on someone else now.
7. “It’s not you, it’s me”
90% of the time when men say this, they’re not taking responsibility or honestly communicating that they have issues; they’re just looking for an excellent way to say, “I don’t want you anymore.”
When a man pulls the “It’s not you, it’s me” card on you, you better dissect that statement.
He may be trying to push you out of his life nicely.
He’s no longer interested in what you share, and that line seems like the perfect one to use.
8. They break up with you
“It’s not you, it’s me” is just one of the many ways guys who aren’t interested try to end the relationship.
They could explore other ways, too.
But whatever tactic he chooses, if he’s ending things with you, it’s because he no longer wants you.
Some guys don’t just display an attitude and hope you get the message; they go straight to the point and end the relationship.
9. They tell people
He may not tell you, but he’s likely to say to his friends and the people closest to him.
A man’s circle is another way to discover his desires and decisions.
Men are usually honest about their feelings to their guys.
They let them know when they’re over a lady, and even if they all still collectively keep deceiving her, down within their hearts, they know when a man doesn’t want her anymore.
10. Less talk about the future
The desire and interest to talk about future plans for the relationship goes down.
Guys know what they want and usually would make plans for it.
If they want a woman and see a future with her, it will be evident in their actions.
He’ll discuss future plans, take steps toward them, and display enthusiasm about the relationship.
You know what that means if he doesn’t do these or stops doing them.
He’s not being indifferent about you and lackadaisical about the relationship for no reason.
11. He stops taking initiative
This is one thing men do that more women need to recognize.
Men naturally love to solve problems and meet needs.
They’re quick to identify issues and make efforts to fix them.
And it’s not always a major issue or even a problem.
It may just involve doing little things, like meeting the woman’s needs even before she asks or doing things to improve the relationship without being asked.
But when they’re no longer interested in the woman, things change.
Lack of initiative becomes the order of the day.
He stops making efforts, initiating conversations and contact, and meeting the woman’s needs.
12. Excuses galore!
“I’m sorry we can’t meet up today; I have to hang out with the boys” is not unusual until it happens repeatedly.
When excuses replace responsibility, it’s safe to say that he no longer wants you.
He now always has something to say to avoid spending time with you.
Even the activities you used to enjoy together no longer interest him.
13. Attitude changes
A man can be different to different people and have different attitudes toward different women depending on how he feels about them.
When he still wants a woman, he’s sweet, kind, attentive, and even soft.
So when his attitude changes and he becomes more withdrawn or overly critical, something is wrong.
It can mean that he no longer wants her.
His tone changes, he’s now cold and detached, showing no affection, support, or interest in intimacy.
Some men even change their appearance, altering their style without considering the woman’s opinion.
14. They become unavailable
When Davido sang “I’m Unavailable,” he was referring to a man who was no longer interested in a woman.
Such a man’s unavailability is unmatched.
He’s distant both physically and emotionally and very difficult to reach.
He’s like a vapor, almost impossible to catch.
15. They become self-centered
All of the attention and attention they used to give you gets redirected.
If he doesn’t redirect it to another woman, he redirects it to himself.
He’s now selfish, putting himself first and prioritizing his own needs over yours and the relationships.
He dismisses your feelings and wants because they no longer matter to him.
16. They disrespect you
Usually, before some men resort to disrespect, they must show other signs.
The disrespect may come in when you don’t get the message and keep sticking around him.
This can happen in various ways; he disregards your concerns and feelings, talks down on you, ignores you, or even makes it obvious that he’s seeing other women.
17. Criticisms start flying
When someone men no longer want you, instead of communicating their feelings like an adult, they choose to go indirectly.
They become harsh and critical, blaming you for every issue and criticizing you at every opportunity.
Your behavior or choices become an issue, and he always has something to say.
He may even compare you unfavorably with other women, suggesting you’re not good enough.
18. Conflicts get prolonged
Not only will conflicts increase, but they’ll also be prolonged.
The man becomes less interested in talking about issues or trashing them out.
He’s visibly disinterested in conflict resolution because he’s no longer interested in being with you.
So you might see him avoid discussing or resolving relationship issues.
19. He focuses on other things
All of a sudden, all his energy is rerouted to work.
Work has always existed, and he balanced it just well with loving you, but now he’s no longer interested in being with you, so he exalts work like it’s some idol.
It may not work in your case; he may choose to focus on friends, family, other women, etc., over your relationship.
A man’s actions are unmistakable pointers to his desires.
If his desire for you is beginning to wane, you’ll be able to tell.
The signs above are usually present, but before concluding, it is important to discuss them just in case there are some other issues on the ground.
These signs fully indicate a decrease in the man’s interest in the relationship and you, but there can be many reasons, so you should try to find out.