Most cheating partners have a million and one excuses to give in defense of their philandering ways when they are caught.
It’s only a few who show remorse initially, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t go back to hurting their partners in a heartbeat.
Some might even turn around and try to gaslight their partners, blaming them for their own misbehaviors.
Anyone in this position who is not strongly aware of themselves and privy to how manipulation works will begin to question and blame themselves for the actions of another person.
However, that is not the focus of our discussion today.
We’ll be looking at some of the common lies cheating husbands tell when they are caught in the act.
The list below holds funny, shocking, and surprising lies.
9 Common Lies Cheating Husbands Tell
1. “It was just a moment of weakness.”
First of all, how does anyone call something as big as cheating a moment of weakness?
I know that everyone has moments of weakness, including being tempted to indulge in sinful pleasures.
For instance, you might be tempted to put lots of chocolates in your shopping basket whenever you pass the chocolate section in a shopping mall, eat a lot of junk food even though it’s considered unhealthy, or spend a significant portion of your savings on shoes, clothes, and handbags.
Indulging in these instances can be considered as having a moment of weakness.
But do you see cheating?
That’s a different ball game.
It’s true that people get attracted to other people who are not their partners.
However, acting on that attraction is where they cross the line.
Cheating doesn’t just happen.
No one wakes up and cheats on their spouse.
It follows a process: conversations, hangouts, phone calls, texts, and a build-up of their existing attraction.
The process in itself is emotional cheating, even before they sleep with each other.
So, you see?
Cheating is never a moment of weakness.
2. “It will never happen again.”
I think this is one of the most common lies cheating husbands tell.
This is considered a lie because most men will tend to fall back into the same trap of cheating.
What did they say again about a cheat always being a cheat?
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
A leopard cannot change its spots.
If a woman’s husband is cheating, it’s her call to make on whether she’s willing to remain with him and condone his cheating excesses.
It’ll be laughable if she believes that he won’t cheat on her again, especially if he has shown her reasons not to believe him.
It will be funnier if he believes it himself.
He cheated once, and he’ll likely cheat again if he does not do anything different from what got him there in the first place.
3. “It’s your fault.”
I made mention of this type of cheating husbands earlier in this post — the ones who try to turn around and blame you for their misbehaviors.
That’s the attitude of a typical cheat.
He’ll try to blame you for his cheating.
By doing so, he’s suggesting that if it were left to him alone, he wouldn’t cheat.
However, because you’ve been busy with work and other activities and didn’t have time for him, he ended up being with another woman.
Cheating is a choice that he consciously indulges in.
You have no blame in it.
If he felt that you were too busy, he would have called your attention to the fact that other things seemed to be pulling you away from him.
But, no.
He runs off at the slightest inkling that you’re busy, and now that he’s caught, he’s trying to heap the blame on you.
Another excuse a chronic cheat will give under this category is that you’ve been acting distant lately, which is what pushed him into the arms of another woman.
That way, he doesn’t get all the blame for his actions.
You get to share in the blame, too.
4. “You’re overreacting.”
This statement is used by cheating husbands who also double as expert manipulators and gaslighters.
They make it look like you’re projecting your insecurities onto them and acting up as a result.
They’ll even deny having any illicit affair.
You’ll feel as though you’re imagining things that aren’t there.
Meanwhile, in the actual sense, they’re very guilty of whatever you’re accusing them of.
However, they go ahead and make it look like you’re the one with a problem, while they remain innocent in the whole scenario.
You’re not imagining things or ‘going crazy’ like a cheat will tag you.
You’re perfectly okay and well within your right to act in whatever way you deem fit when you notice that your husband is cheating on you.
He knows this, but he will still try to make it look like you’re imagining things.
5. “You’re not willing to try out new things in the bedroom.”
The fact that a woman is not willing to be adventurous in the bedroom doesn’t give her husband the right to engage in sexual relations with another woman.
This is where communication, compromise, and respect come in.
If a woman is not comfortable with certain sexual acts, it’s important for her husband to respect that and find ways to spice up their sex life without involving someone else.
Cheating should never be seen as a solution or an excuse for lack of sexual satisfaction in a relationship.
If he so strongly believes that he’s well within his right to ‘look outside’ because she’s not adventurous, then he should also be willing to let her ‘look outside’ in search of men who match her energy in the bedroom.
Fair deal, isn’t it?
6. “I’ll change, or I’m a changed man.”
Does he promise to change, or is he suddenly a changed man because he was caught cheating?
There is a difference between being a changed person because you were caught doing wrong and being truly remorseful and willing to make changes for the better.
Most of the time, when a man is caught cheating, he may promise to change his ways and be a better person for his wife, and these words are always taken at their face value.
A man who is old enough to be married should know the importance of commitment in relationships and practice it with his wife.
He’ll also know that change is not a sudden or overnight thing.
It’s a gradual process.
Therefore, his claim to be a changed person doesn’t hold water, given that he was probably caught in the act.
It’s all lies.
7. “You should blame her, not me.”
As usual, a typical cheat will want to blame anyone else but himself for his actions.
In this case, he’s suggesting that his affair partner should be blamed for the consensual sex they had.
He’s speaking as if he were coerced into doing it.
His affair partner has a role to play, but it’s not all her fault.
She’s just as guilty as he is in the story.
So, his suggestion that she should take the entire blame will not fly.
8. “She’s just a friend.”
One of the common lies cheating husbands tell is that their affair partner is just a friend.
In this case, she’s not because friends don’t engage in sexual activities with each other.
It’s even worse that he’s married, and this ‘friend’ still doesn’t mind exchanging bodily fluids with him.
Sis, that lady is his affair partner.
If he doesn’t have any problem with cheating on you, he shouldn’t have any problem with admitting that she’s his mistress.
9. “I’m not sleeping with her, so I’m not cheating.”
A married man doesn’t have to only have sex with another woman for it to be considered cheating.
Emotional infidelity is a thing too.
As I mentioned earlier, cheating is a process.
There are things that come before the actual sex.
They include texting, chatting, hanging out, and phone calls.
These things strengthen the attraction between two people, an attraction that they have no business working on because it’s not right.
Doing the things listed above will naturally make a man drift apart from his wife.
He’s already cheating before he even goes to bed with the other woman.
Anything he does with another woman in secret that he can’t boldly do with her in the presence of his wife or other people because he knows that it’s wrong is him cheating on his wife.
So, a cheating husband should miss his wife with the line that he’s not sleeping with the other woman.
He might not be sleeping with her yet, but he’s definitely cheating on his wife with her.