In this era of content creation and content monetization across many social media platforms, I understand that the urge to put out content about anything and everything is high.
The pressure to have a solid social media presence and amass a huge number of followers is getting crazier.
I mean, as long as it’s content and it’s bringing in the money, why not?
But there’s a thin line between posting content and revealing too much.
A lot of married people are creating healthy content, and there are still some who have shared everything about their marriage on social media, all in the name of creating content.
As a married person, there are some things you should never post about your marriage on social media.
Posting these things might cause problems between you and your spouse, make people disrespect your spouse, or even keep you in harm’s way.
What are the things you should never post about your marriage on social media?
Let’s discuss them in detail.
7 Things You Should Never Post About Your Marriage On Social Media
1. Romantic details about your spouse
There are things couples share between themselves that should remain between them.
No one else needs to know about these details because they contribute to the uniqueness of the relationship.
For instance, the pet names they call each other, how sweet, romantic, and mushy they can be, and other stuff like that.
These romantic details about your spouse should be for their ears only.
Putting it out on social media sort of reduces how special it is between the couple.
I mean, it’s something we all now know against our will, so I guess it’s not that special to them anymore.
The beauty of it is in the privacy and the fact that the couple has exclusive access to these details about their spouse.
Again, we really don’t want to know these details.
We’ll probably be rolling our eyes while reading, as it passes off as too much information.
2. What happens under the covers
Couples should never, ever post whatever happens under the covers in their marriage.
Why would anyone in their right frame of mind want to do that in the first place?
Sharing such information is childish, immature, and ewww.
We get that you’re legally permitted to have sex, but please spare us the details.
We’re not interested in such a piece of information, and those who seem to be are only interested in their personal entertainment.
Besides, I’m not sure the other party in the marriage will be okay with having such intimate details of themselves out in public for the consumption of strangers who couldn’t care less.
I’m of the opinion that any married person who wants to share such details should first seek the consent of their spouse.
But I don’t see why such information should be made available in a public space in the first place.
It only adds to the toxicity and objectification of marriage in our society.
Marriage should be a sacred bond between two people, not a competition for who can share the most intimate details for attention and validation.
3. Horrible jokes about your partner
I understand the urge to show others that one is free and comfortable with one’s significant other.
But there is a limit to how far one can go, and one should be careful not to cross that line.
I can’t seem to understand why some people feel comfortable making horrible jokes and saying very demeaning things about their spouses, all in the name of showing that they’re free and comfortable with them.
For instance, instead of saying that their partner doesn’t have a very smooth voice for singing, someone may outrightly say that their partner croaks like a frog all in the name of singing.
I don’t get it.
Why are they saying such things in the first place anyway?
There are a lot of other ways to show that one is comfortable with their spouse.
Trust me, social media doesn’t forget.
People read between the lines, and while you’re trying so hard to portray yourself as a cool couple who are so free with each other by posting terrible things, social media only sees you disrespecting your spouse.
4. Personal details about your spouse
One thing you should never post about your marriage on social media is personal details about your spouse.
We know how lucky you are to have them and how adorable they are, even in the little things.
But no one wants to know that he sleeps at a weird angle with his mouth half open.
We do not care that she can’t have her morning cup of coffee without snuggling into you like she wants to melt into your skin.
Do you see how these instances come off as weird?
That’s exactly how that post you think is so lovey-dovey will look once it leaves your head and makes it to social media.
Again, your spouse might not want the whole world to know these personal details about them.
So, why go against their wish by posting them, sometimes without their consent?
It’s not a cool thing to do.
These details are some of the things that should stay between couples and not be shared on social media.
5. Pictures of your spouse that they don’t approve of
Different people have different definitions of pictures that come out nicely.
You might think that a smiling picture of your spouse is the most beautiful thing you’ve seen all day, but they might not agree with you.
They might think that the smile didn’t reach their eyes or that it gave them a different look that they don’t like.
If they don’t approve of any pictures and say that they don’t like how they look in them, it’s best not to post them at all.
Even when they do not say anything, ask them if it’s okay to post.
Get their approval before posting pictures of them.
6. Sub posts about your partner
Do not run to social media to make sub posts about your partner whenever you have a disagreement.
No one except drama-thirsty people wants to scroll through social media and stumble on posts directed at their partner.
For instance, you make a cryptic post about people who are so selfish that all they think of at every point is themselves.
Or you can talk about people who are not ready to compromise in marriage.
Remember that people are very good at reading between the lines.
If you have a problem with your spouse, the best way to handle it is to trash it out with them face-to-face.
The temptation to put it on social media might be there, but you won’t like living with the consequences of that action afterward.
You don’t want total strangers to have an opinion or give unsolicited advice about your marriage because you posted your relationship problem on social media.
7. Pictures of expensive gifts your spouse got you
Never ever post pictures of expensive gifts your spouse got you on social media.
You may ask why, and it’s mainly for security reasons.
Be security conscious.
A lady on TikTok posted that her husband got thirty plots of land in her name.
She went ahead to attach a video of him signing the documents of the land with his full face in the video.
The post went viral, and one comment on it got me, and I’ll paraphrase.
The commenter said she had set her husband up to be kidnapped.
We know that you want us to see your expensive gifts from your spouse and probably ‘awww’ and gush about how they’re caring and intentional about you.
But tone it down.
Just like there are people who use social media for fun, some others have evil intentions, such as robbers and kidnappers.
By posting such sensitive details, you’re handing them vital information to likely harm you and your loved ones.