How do you know that a woman has been sexually active?
TMI (Too much Information) alert: this article is likely going to get very explicit.
So prepare your mind for a little bit of some extra information.
Being able to tell if a woman has had sex, whether recently or sometime before in her life, is not a straightforward thing.
You can’t know with a hundred percent accuracy unless she tells you, but some signs can be strong indicators.
9 Signs That A Woman Has Been Sexually Active
1. Being vocal about sexual matters
Although with social media, there are a lot of pretenses and people claiming to be what they’re not, sometimes you can tell a lot about a person by the things they say or their social media posts.
When a woman is very expressive or vocal about things that have to do with sex, it is possibly because she’s been there before.
Perhaps she talks a lot about her sexual orientation, desires, fantasies, or even the act itself.
Or maybe she’s involved in shows or media that have high sexual expressions or undertones.
This comfort and fearlessness she has about sexual matters may be because it’s not new to her.
She freely engages in sexual and romantic interactions and has no hesitation or anxiety whatsoever about things related to sex.
Probably because she has experienced it.
2. Her knowledge of the subject
Knowledge about anything can be obtained through reading books, talking to people, or watching movies, but there is a kind of knowledge that only comes from experience.
A woman being educated about sex is not unusual and should even be a norm, but there are certain levels of knowledge which, if she has, may not have come from studying but from experience.
A woman who knows a lot about contraception, protection, practical sexual health tips, and the whole anatomy of sex has most likely engaged in it before.
Unless she sells them or is a health worker, the only reason she knows so much about condoms and birth control pills is because she’s had to deal with them before.
She knows a lot about the subject matter, and her knowledge is from a place of trial.
3. Zero naivety
When a woman hasn’t been sexually active, she may display some level of innocence, especially around sexual matters.
For instance, I never knew what Postinor (emergency contraceptive) looked like until I got married.
It made me remember seeing that same pill in the handbag of my cousin, who said the doctor had prescribed it to treat an ailment, and I believed her.
I was so clueless!
A sexually active woman is different.
She’s experienced with sexual activities, so there’s no naivety in her.
She exudes confidence, and her openness about sexual things is evident.
She may even be comfortable having sexual conversations with people.
4. Physical signs
Okay, we’re about to go deeper into this subject.
Physical changes are one of the ways to tell that a woman has been sexually active, especially very recently.
Because every woman is different, you may not see the same signs in every woman.
However, some signs are general, especially for a woman who was sexually active minutes or hours ago.
The woman may have physical signs such as vaginal lubrication, which may be persistent for hours, swelling around her genitalia due to increased blood flow there from sexual arousal, vaginal discharge, or even a relaxed vaginal muscle that may be due to sexual activity.
The absence of the hymen may not be an accurate sign because some women are born without it or lose it through other nonsexual routes.
The presence of semen around a woman’s genitalia is another indication of recent penetrative sexual activity.
Some people also claim to perceive a scent around people who just had sex, but I don’t know about that.
5. Sexual concerns
There are certain things only a sexually active person will be concerned about.
A woman being afraid of getting pregnant or having sexual health concerns shows that she’s been sexually active.
It’s difficult for you to get an STI when you haven’t had sex.
They’re called STIs for a reason: Sexually Transmitted Infections.
I remember one time as a single when I missed my period; the only concern I had was hoping nothing was wrong with my health.
Pregnancy didn’t even cross my mind.
Unless I was about to be another Virgin Mary, there was no way that would happen because I hadn’t been sexually active.
6. History of pregnancy or STIs
Apart from artificial insemination, the only other way for a woman to get pregnant and carry the child by herself is through sex, and that happens to be the more common way, too.
Asking if a pregnant woman or a woman with biological children has been sexually active before isn’t a great question.
She most likely has.
It’s rare for someone who hasn’t been sexually active to be pregnant.
And she can’t have a history of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
7. Behavioral changes
A woman’s behavior can be a pointer to the fact that she’s been sexually active.
Surprising but true.
A sexually active woman may have increased energy levels and a brighter mood.
Having sex can release endorphins, and that can reduce stress and improve a woman’s mood.
Please, don’t automatically assume that every happy woman you see just had sex; that’s not the aim of this point.
This is just another indicator that may confirm your suspicion.
A sexually active woman’s behavior can give her away.
She may be more affectionate towards her partner, being mushy, holding his hands, cuddling, or kissing.
Her overall behavior, including her dressing style or clothing choices, may suggest that she has a more liberal attitude towards sexuality.
8. Relationship history
These days, being in a relationship is almost synonymous with having sex.
I mean, sex has been so ‘commonized’ that even people who don’t know each other are having it.
So it’s almost accurate to say a woman has been sexually active if she’s been in a romantic relationships or currently is in one.
But make no mistakes, there are still many people in relationships today who, for reasons such as personal values, religious reasons, or just morals, choose not to get sexually involved with each other before marriage.
9. Her circle and background
A woman whose friends are very sexually expressive or engage in casual sex is likely to follow the same path.
Peer influence is a thing, and birds of the same father usually flock together.
A woman’s background and circle can say a lot about her sexual life.
Sex is a very personal subject that should be treated with sensitivity and respect.
It is a private experience and concept and should be treated as such.
This is why no one can know with a hundred percent certainty that a woman has been sexually active unless they were involved in it with her or she tells them.
These signs are not authoritative or definitive proof of a woman’s sexual history because individuals and behaviors differ.